7 Things Never to Say to Your Boss - Part 2

"I can only do one thing at a time."

News flash: Complaining you are overworked will not make your boss feel sorry for you or go easier on you. Instead, a boss will think: (1) you resent your job, and/or (2) you aren't up to your job. Everybody, especially nowadays, feels pressured and overworked. If you're trying to be funny, please note that some sarcasm is funny and lightens the mood. Some just ticks people off.

"I am way overqualified for this job."

Hey, maybe you are. But the fact is, this is the job you have. You agreed to take it on and, while you may now regret that decision, it's still your job. Complaining that it's beneath you only makes you look bad. Plus, coworkers doing similar jobs may resent and dislike you. And guess what? Bosses will not think, "Oh, this is a superior person whom I need to promote." Nope, they'll think, "What a jerk."

"This job is easy! Anyone could do it!"

Maybe what you're trying to convey here is that you're so brilliant your work is easy. Unfortunately, it comes off sounding more like, "This work is stupid." Bosses don't like hearing that any work is stupid. Nor do they really like hearing that a job is easy peasy. It belittles the whole enterprise. If a task is simple, be glad and do it as quickly as you can. Even "stupid" work needs to get done.

"It can't be done."

Saying something can't be done is like waving a red flag in a boss's eyes. Even if the thing being suggested truly is impossible, saying it is can make you look ineffectual or incapable. Better to play detective. Why is the boss asking you to do whatever it is? What's the problem that needs to be solved? What's the goal? Search for doable ways of solving that problem or reaching that goal. That's what bosses really want. Most of them do not expect the impossible.

Last words : When in doubt, remember that silence really is golden.

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7 Things Never to Say to Your Boss - Part 1

Everyone has a boss. Even if you "work for yourself," you're still an employee to your client.

A big part of maintaining the boss-employee relationship is to never allow a boss to think you dislike your work, are incapable of doing it, or--worse--consider it beneath you.

These sound like no-brainers, but many statements heard commonly around the workplace violate these basic rules. Looking for an example? Here are seven heard in workplaces all the time. They may seem ordinary, even harmless. But try reading these from your boss's point of view. You'll see right away why it's smart to never allow these seven sentences to pass your lips :

"That's not my job."

You know what? A lot of bosses are simple souls who think your job is to do what's asked of you. So even if you're assigned a task that is, indeed, not your job, refrain from saying so. Instead, try to find out why your boss is assigning you this task--there may be a valid reason. If you believe that doing the task is a bad idea (as in, bad for the company) you can try explaining why and suggesting how it could be better done by someone else. This may work, depending on the boss. In any case, remember that doing what's asked of you, even tasks outside your job description, is good karma.

"It's not my problem."

When people say something is not their problem it makes them look like they don't care. This does not endear them to anybody, especially the boss. If a problem is brewing and you have nothing constructive to say, it's better to say nothing at all. Even better is to pitch in and try to help. Because, ultimately, a problem in the workplace is everyone's problem. We're all in it together.

"It's not my fault."

Yet another four words to be avoided. Human nature is weird. Claiming that something is not our fault often has the result of making people suspect it is. Besides, what's the real issue here? It's that something went wrong and needs to be fixed. That's what people should be thinking about--not who is to blame.

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Self Esteem - Causes & Improvement - Part 3

HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM AND BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

1) Accept Yourself

Firstly, you need to become more accepting of yourself and realise that nobody is perfect and that we all make mistakes from time to time and that this is natural and perfectly acceptable.

2) Recognise your talents

Another method of boosting self-confidence is to recognise talents, abilities and good qualities. Constantly remind ourselves of these and to give ourselves a pat on the back whenever we are able to utilise those abilities and qualities for the benefit of ourselves and others.

 

3) Embrace challenges

Never shy away from risks. You can end up stifling your own personal development and become more afraid to take risks if you perpetually do the same thing over and over again because it’s something you know that works. Life is an evolutionary process and things change all the time. For you to become confident, it’s crucial that you try out new experiences and embrace challenges and risks and see them as an opportunity for growth as opposed to something to be frightened of.

4) Never compare

Don’t judge yourself by competing with others. Everyone’s different. Some of us can jump higher than others, some of us can spell better but it’s important that we only aspire to do and to be the best that we can and not to compare ourselves with the achievements of others.

5) Consult a physician

If the above techniques do not seem to work, then see a counsellor or a physician who can guide on further treatment. Low self-esteem if untreated can lead to psychological problems too.

Neha, with counselling sessions and homeopathic treatment was not only treated from skin allergy but regained her self esteem. She is being appreciated at work for her hard work and at home for her talents.

 

 

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Self Esteem - Causes & Improvement - Part 2

CHARACTERISTICS OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM :

• General lack of participation

• Negative responses to questions

• Sluggish physical behaviour

• Excessive use of activities for escapism (TV, videos, internet, reading). Be careful of over-analysing here as this alone is not an indicator

• Aggressive or argumentative behaviour

• Indecisiveness

• Unwillingness to try anything new (anything from new food through to goal setting)

• Inability to say no (need to be liked/loved by others by saying yes)

• Need to prove self-worth and ‘status’ by boasting, making public claims about capabilities (whether true or false)

• Low self-esteem has been correlated with low life satisfaction, loneliness, anxiety, resentment, irritability and depression

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Self Esteem - Causes & Improvement - Part 1

Low self-esteem is known to be the ‘core’ of psychological problems. Here are ways to identify and tackle this menace

Low self-esteem and lack of confidence can hold us back from achieving many things. It can also be detrimental to our physical and emotional well-being. The level of our self-esteem has profound consequences on every aspect of our existence – how we operate in our workplace, how we deal with people, how high we are likely to rise and how much we are likely to achieve.

The reasons of low self-esteem often begins during childhood. Even the most confident of adolescents can grow up to experience low self-esteem and start to feel unworthy. Adult life can be tough and it can sometimes feel like the ‘survival of the fittest’ and we’re all, at some point, going to bump into people who will try to belittle us.

Low self-esteem is best described as having a low opinion of oneself (either consciously or subconsciously), and feelings of being ‘worthless’. Yet the subject has not received the kind of attention that it deserves. Unless our self-esteem plummets to the extent that we can no longer handle our lives effectively.

Low self esteem can be well understood by the examples cited below:

Neha, a 24-year-old girl is an MBA graduate, who is working with a wellknown firm, hailing from a well-educated family. Since the past few months, she has been facing problems with colleagues at workplace and also having tiffs with her younger sister. She often complains of mood swings and at times becomes snappish. Her sister describes her as being indifferent.

An introvert by nature is hardworking and dedicated at work. She is of wheatish complexion and has conventional looks. During a session of counselling, it was unearthed that as a child she was compared to her sister who was fair and attractive. She developed low self-esteem at a younger age and that was aggravated since her parents were looking for a suitable groom for her.

 

 

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Asthma : Remedy / Relief / Treatment

Asthma : Remedy ! Relief ! Treatment

 

Asthma is Quite common problem affecting a large no.of people in our country. Asthma is a breath stealing, chest tightening, nervous feeling that many people suffer from in which the triggers are sometimes not even noticed. Dust, pollen, stress, and exercising can all trigger asthma. Make sure to keep your house clean by vacuuming weekly and keeping your sheets and pillows clean.

Asthma Cause:

* Exposure to tobacco or wood smoke.

* Breathing polluted air.

* Inhaling other respiratory irritants such as perfumes or cleaning products.

* Exposure to airway irritants at the workplace.

* Breathing in allergy causing substances (allergens) such as molds, dust, or animal dander.

* An upper respiratory infection, such as a cold, flu, sinusitis, or bronchitis.

* Exposure to cold, dry weather.

* Emotional excitement or stress.

* Physical exertion or exercise.

Asthma Symptom:

When the breathing passages become irritated or infected, an attack is triggered. The attack may come on suddenly or develop slowly over several days or hours. The main symptoms that signal an attack are as follows

* Wheezing.

* Breathlessness.

* Chest tightness.

* Coughing.

* Difficulty speaking.

Symptoms may occur during the day or at night. If they happen at night, they may disturb your sleep.

Home Remedies for Asthma:

* Vitamin B6 and Vitamin B12 are very important nutrients to treat asthma decreasing the inflammation in the lungs.

* Mullein oil is used to fight respiratory congestion, is very important to make it as a tea for faster results.

* If exercise triggers asthma attacks, cut back the amount of salt in your diet and take 2,000 mg. Of Vitamin C one hour before your workout.

* Eat salmon 3 times a week and take salmon oil capsules.

* Drink coffee and Soft drinks with caffeine (colas), caffeine dilates the bronchial airways.

* The Patient should be given Garlic Cloves boiled in thirty Grams of Milk daily.

* Soak dry Grapes in Water at Night and keep in cold Milk for half an hour and chew them.

* Regular Chewing of Fennel helps expel infected mucous from the chest.!

 

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Ways To Put A Smile On Somebody Else’s Face - Part 2

5. Deliver a meal to someone you know that is sick or having a rough time. We have all been sick and know the last thing you want to do is be out of bed. There are also times when life is tough and it is hard to do all of the daily chores. You can be a tremendous help by providing a meal that can be enjoyed.

6. Volunteer time to supporting your local prayer hall or temple. Every minute you dedicate to charity or temple will cause many smiles. You will put a smile on the face of each leader just for helping without being asked. You will also be putting smiles on the faces of those that are being helped through the organization.

7. Thank everyone that supports you throughout the day. The list of those that you come in contact with is endless. Remember family and friends, secretaries, co-workers, teachers, Sunday school teachers, pastors, store employees, janitors, gas station attendants, those that deliver your mail and newspaper, and servers at restaurants

 

 

 

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Ways To Put A Smile On Somebody Else’s Face - Part 1

 

1. Write an encouraging note to others that have encouraged you or that need encouragement. Handwritten notes that are given to encourage, not just for thanking someone for a gift, are rare. That makes handwritten notes even more special. Start a new practice of sitting down and writing an encouraging note on a regular basis. You just might start an epidemic!

2. Take a friend out to lunch or invite her to your home for a meal. You will get to know each other even better than you do right now. If you feel like being more adventurous, throw a party for several of your friends and put smiles on a multitude of faces.

3. Give someone an inspirational book to read. You will feel good doing it, reading the book will change the person, and they will think of you every time they read it.

4. Ask a friend or relative if you can take care of their kid(s) for a day or evening. If you have been a parent, you know the value of being able to have a few hours of `adult time` without worrying about the children. Don't wait to be asked to baby-sit when it is required. Offer to do it at a time when the parent can do something fun and relaxing.

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Peace of Mind - Tips and Advice - Part 2

Here are a few simple things that can help you :

Reduce the amount of time you read the newspapers or watch the news on TV.

Stay away from negative conversations and from negative people.

Don't hold grudges. Learn to forget and forgive. Nurturing ill feelings and grievances hurts you and causes lack of sleep.

Don't be jealous of others. Being jealous means that you have low self-esteem and consider yourself inferior to others. This again, causes lack of inner peace.

Accept what cannot be changed. This saves a lot of time, energy and worries.

Every day we face numerous inconveniences, irritations and situations that are beyond our control. If we can change them, that's fine, but this is not always possible. We must learn to

put up with such things and accept them cheerfully.

Learn to be more patient and tolerant with people and events.

Don't take everything too personally. Some emotional and mental detachment is desirable.

Try to view your life and other people with a little detachment and less involvement.

Detachment is not indifference, lack of interest or coldness. It is the ability to think and judge impartially and logically. Don't worry if again and again you fail to manifest detachment. Just

keep trying.

Let bygones be gone. Forget the past and concentrate on the present moment. There is no need to evoke unpleasant memories and immerse yourself in them.

Practice some concentration exercises. This will help you to reject unpleasant thoughts and

worries that steal away your peace of mind.

Learn to practice meditation. Even a few minutes a day will make a change in your life.

Inner peace ultimately leads to external peace. By creating peace in our inner world, we bring it into the external world, affecting other people too.

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Peace of Mind - Tips and Advice - Part 1

Most people would be glad to have some peace of mind in their life. They would be happy to forget their troubles, problems and worries, and enjoy a few moments of inner calmness and freedom from obsessing thoughts.

What is peace of mind? It is a state of inner calmness and tranquility, together with a sense of freedom, when thoughts and worries cease, and there is no stress, strain or fear. Such moments are not so rare. They may be experienced while being engaged in some kind of an absorbing or interesting activity, such as while watching an interesting movie or TV program,
while being with someone you love, while reading a book or while lying on the sand at the each.

When you are on vacation, do you experience some sort of mental numbness? At this time the mind becomes calmer, with fewer thoughts and fewer worries. Even while you are deeply asleep, not aware of your thoughts, you are in a state of inner peace.

 Such and similar activities take away the mind from its usual thoughts and worries, and bring

some temporary inner peace.

 The question is, how to bring more peace of mind into our life, and more importantly, how to

experience it in times of trouble. You might also ask whether it is possible to make it a habit, and enjoy it always and under all circumstances. First, you need to learn to bring more moments of inner peace into your daily life. Later, you will be able to experience these moments in times of trouble or difficulties too, when you most need inner calmness and tranquility.

 

 

To Be Continued.....

 

 

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The Secret to giving Presentations - Part 2

Don't

• Hesitate at the end of sentences "Ending sentences with 'you know', ummms and aaahs drives audiences crazy," reckons Israel. "Get someone you know to write down whether you have annoying habits when you present. If they keep a tick sheet of your habits in presentations it will help your brain to change."

• Read from a script "Reading a speech from a piece of paper is the worst thing you can do, especially if you lose your place," says Israel. Using only brief headings will mean you do not lose eye contact and will make your presentation more spontaneous.

• Bore your audience "If you cram too much content into the time available, ­people get brain overload," says McGee. "On slides use words rather than sentences. Some highly intelligent people use PowerPoint appallingly. If you use PowerPoint as a prop, with a dozen sentences that people cannot read, your personality will be lost."

Source : guardian.co.uk

 

 

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The Secret to giving Presentations - Part 1

How to impress colleagues, clients and the boss with your communication skills

Many of us have experienced sitting through presentations that are dull and severely lacking in star quality. What should be a time to shine in front of colleagues, clients and the boss is often an unpleasant experience that many find hard to thrive in, whether in a one-on-one situation or in front of a whole lecture theatre. So, when trying to give a presentation, what can you do to make sure you impress?

Do's

• Use positive body language "Making eye contact shows that you are confident and gives people confidence in you," says Richard Israel, co-author of Mind Chi. "Keep your hands out of your pockets and keep both feet on the ground. Fidgeting is a giveaway sign that you are not happy."

• Rehearse your presentation "People die on stage because they think they can wing it," says Paul ­McGee, author of Self-Confidence. "They think they know it because their PowerPoint is done, and don't realise that rehearsing is time well spent. I use the phrase, 'Avoid the hearse, go and rehearse'."

• Think about the audience Remember who you are giving the presentation to and what their needs are. McGee says: "The pitfall most people fall into is forgetting who the audience is and why they are giving the presentation."

• Use stories "The messages that stick are those told with stories," says McGee. "Tell stories from your own experiences, ideally. It's a tactic used by a lot of politicians."

 

 

 

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How to Start a Conversation with new People - Part 2

Tips

 

* Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)

 

* Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.

* It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world. Also remember and plan to share anything you like, think is funny, or find intriguing. This is building up your own library of things that might be helpful to another person during a conversation someday. It will be amazing how you thread these interesting things when you least expect it, and make conversation an adventure instead of a dreadful task. If you take it to the next step and say things that you want the person to think of as adding value, and keep to yourself things that the person might not, you are actually honing your own personality to be appealing to the other person, and what is a greater act of kindness than that.

 

* If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.

 

* Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.

* Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about. You could also use a set of conversation starter question cards for inspiration.

* If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?"?This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.

* Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.

* Read newspapers and magazines to increase your knowledge so you can have more interesting things to talk about

 

 

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How to Start a Conversation with new People - Part 1

 

1. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step.

2. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it "bam!" you've got a great topic of conversation.

3. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.

4. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves; get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.

5. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.

6. Look your new found friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.

7. Don't forget to smile and have fun with your conversation!

 

 

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The Power of Body Language - Part 2

Keys to Confidence

A lot of your body language can show how confident, interested, bored, angered or nervous you are. Keep your head up throughout the entire conversation to show that you are very much into the conversation at hand.

You may feel free to use a few hand gestures to emphasize a point. If you're enumerating things, it's better to use each of your fingers as you mention each item to help your audience keep track.

Pacing will help you establish more ground if you have a larger crowd to communicate with. It will also show confidence on your part as you think of more things to say. Swinging your arms & walking tall are good indicators of confidence as well.

Safety Precautions

Avoid fidgeting or twiddling with different items like pens, coins & shirt buttons. Practice feeling comfortable having your arms stick to your sides. If you intend to depict a reserved attitude, you may cross them as needed but open up again with new & accepted ideas. You may sit if it is proper or necessary, but never slouch. Covering your mouth after you speak suggests a false statement or lying.

It is also not recommended to point a finger directly at your audience unless you intend to discriminate or accuse. Be very careful when touching the other person since you are crossing the boundaries of body language through actual contact. Remember that in body language, it is your body that does the talking for you. It is only fair that you dress well to properly send your message across without any unnecessary distractions. The power of body language is fascinating; please use it wisely.

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The Power of Body Language - Part 1

You'll definitely notice a whole new reaction from people if you unleash the power of body language. Everyone communicates non verbally even without having to think about it.

If you want to have a powerful edge in life, you need to convey the proper body language signs, with or without having to say anything else. Here's how to use the power of body language.

The Approach

First & foremost, you need to establish territory to utilize the power of body language. You're responsible & confident for anything you are about to do or say during the expected conversation.

Spread your feet without your knees completely locking out. Relax your shoulders, keep your hands at your sides (never inside your pockets) & breathe carefully. Assume an open posture & have a warm, welcoming facial expression as if you look forward to communicating. Depending on the situation, you may smile when appropriate.

Using the Power of Body Language When Conversing

Face the other person or your audience squarely & maintain eye contact as much as possible throughout the conversation. Nodding, arching your eyebrows & tilting your head closer, shows that you are listening.

Do not fold your arms, look down at the floor or put your hands in your pockets. These can subliminally show that you are not interested.

If you have any comments, you can show it in negative but respectful ways like raising your eyebrows, pressing your lips together & raising your palm up front as if telling the person to pause.

To Be Continued.....

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