How to battle loneliness after a breakup !!

1. Don’t indulge in self-pity – that’s most important. Make a conscious effort to appear confident and keep smiling. Get down to watching your favourite programmes on TV. Spend some time re-connecting with yourself and regaining parts of yourself that you may have lost or been neglecting lately. 

2. Visit friends and family – they can be a great comfort after a breakup. Catch up with them and allow them to take care of you and keep you company when you’re feeling down. 

3. Take a break and get out of town for a few days- A new environment will allow you to meet new people whom you might make friends with. 

4. Pick up a new hobby- Now could be a good time to do something you’ve always thought of doing. Take dance lessons. Start a blog... Before you know it, you’ll forget all about that old what’s his (or her) name. 

Tips for Dating Your Best Friend - Part 2

Take it slow. Don’t dive right into a heavy duty romantic relationship. This can be easy to do, when you already know each other so well. Take time to adjust to this new aspect of your relationship, and decide if it really is the direction you want to go.

Avoid sexual involvement. This is especially important. Adding sex into the relationship is bound to complicate matters. Adding a sexual component to a relationship creates a whole different bond. Those physical feelings can then easily muddy the waters regarding your true feelings for each other.

Find another (second) best friend. Now that your best friend is now your boyfriend/girlfriend, you need someone else to talk to that you can trust. You need someone whom you can share the joys and the struggles of the relationship, who is not part of the relationship.

Be prepared. Think about how you will handle the situation, if and when, you should break off your romantic relationship. Don’t let it blindside you, if it happens.

Never stop talking. Best friends talk about everything. Never let that stop. The biggest key to maintaining any relationship is to keep the communication flowing. As the relationship changes, be honest and open about what you’re feeling. Allow the other person that same privilege of being able to be honest about their feelings, even when it isn’t what you want to hear.

As we stated at the beginning, dating your best friend can be the beginning of a wonderful thing, but it can also be the road to losing your best friend. Approach with caution.

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Tips for Dating Your Best Friend - Part 1

When you hear a wife or husband say that they ‘married their best friend’, you know that they have the basis for a very strong relationship. However, dating your best friend doesn’t always leave you with a life long relationship, in marriage or otherwise. Here are a few tips regarding this type of change in a relationship.

Understand the risk. By moving from a close friendship to a dating relationship you automatically risk the loss of the friendship completely. Very few people are able to end a romantic relationship and remain close friends. Make sure you are willing to risk losing your best friend.

Talk it through. Be open and honest with each other about your feelings. If you’re best friends, then you’re used to sharing with each other. Don’t let that change. Talk about the risk involved. Be sure that you are both feeling the same way, before you head in the new direction.

Keep talking. Once you do start dating, don’t stop being best friends. Continue to share the things with each other that you used to.

Stick with the group. Don’t isolate yourselves from your group of friends, just because you’ve become a couple. Continue to do things with your group(s) of friends, rather than doing things alone as a couple.

Listen to other’s advice. If you have friends who know you both, don’t shut out their advice. They may see things about your relationship, positive or negative, that neither of you see. You don’t necessarily have to take their advice, but give it a weighty hearing.

To Be Continued......

Self Help Mantra - How to Resolve Conflicts with Friends - Part 2

Step 5 

Respect each other's space and time. Everybody's different. Your friend may need a week before he is ready to resolve the conflict and you may need only a day. Give him the time he needs. 

Step 6 

Communicate. Not talking only makes matters worse. Periodically contact your friend to let her know that you still care about her. 

Step 7 

Listen well. Listen intently and focus on his point of view with an open mind. 

Step 8 

Choose your words wisely. Avoid accusatory phrases like "you never," "you always" or "why would you." 

Step 9 

Leave out the "but" When your friend asks if you accept his apology doesn't say "yes, but..." It's a conditional acceptance and can lead to more hurt feelings. The same goes for "I understand, but..." 

Step 10 

Let it go. If you can't find common ground, agree to disagree and let it go. Nothing good will come out of the conflict if you don't.

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Self Help Mantra - How to Resolve Conflicts with Friends - Part 1

Fighting with friends is tough all around. We often say things we don't mean and feelings get hurt. Occasionally, no one wants to admit they were wrong and no one wants to apologize; it seems as though the situation is beyond repair. There are many ways to resolve conflicts with friends. Here are some things you can do to start down the road to conflict resolution.

Step 1

Calm down. No one thinks rationally when emotionally worked up. Give yourself time to calm down before even thinking of the subject of the conflict again.

Step 2

Give each other respect. Without first respecting your friend, it is unlikely that the conflict will be resolved amicably.

Step 3

Give each other space. When the conflict has become too heated, walk away.

Step 4

Give each other time. Time to cool off will help all parties involved think things over in a rational manner.

To Be Continued....

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Tips To Reduce Stress

1. Contribute to a good cause.


2. Drink plenty of water. Minimum of 8 glasses per day.


3. Read good books to divert mind.


4. Quit smoking and alcohol consumption.


5. Make a 'To do list' and a time table for each day well in advance.


6. Share your feelings with friends and loved ones.


7. Forgive others. Don't remain angry for long .Be frank and open-minded.


8. Concentrate on hobbies.


9. Take breaks in between work. Don't work too long .


10. Get enough rest. Sleep at least 7 hrs a day.