Self Help Mantra - Principles of Life - Part 3

A Reminder of the Principles of Life


11: Love responds- fear reacts. Love connects- fear separates. Love uplifts- fear deflates. Love creates- fear destroys.


12: There is no such thing as a mistake- only experience. There is no such thing as failure - only people's condemnation. There is no such thing as success- only people's approval. Let life live through you.


13: Do not get caught up in modifying your life, allow life to change YOU. Modification is a superficial exterior veneer, change is an inner shift in consciousness.


14: Pain is a measure of your resistance to change.


15: Decide whether you want to be an onlooker of life or a participant. This is the birthplace of choice.


To Be Continued.....

~ Unknown Author

Self Help Mantra - Principles of Life - Part 2

A Reminder of the Principles of Life


6: Becoming free is not changing yourself into someone you think you should be. Becoming free is falling in love with who you are- right now.


7: Imagine a room of pitch dark and a room of bright light connected by a door. When you open the door what happens? Light floods into the dark room, illuminating it. Live accordingly, think thoughts of light.


8: F.E.A.R- False Evidence Appearing Real


9: Anything of the past that is unresolved is unresolved now. Living NOW resolves the past.


10: Life flows from the inside out, never the reverse. Understand this and you cease to be a victim.


To Be Continued....

~ Unknown Author

Self Help Mantra - Principles of Life - Part 1

A Reminder of the Principles of Life


1: Life does not work through indecision. Indecision promotes blocks, confusion and stress. Make a decision and allow life to find movement through you. Trust yourself.


2: The 3 C's of life are Courage, Capacity and Commitment. It takes Courage and a commitment to make many of life's decisions, and capacity to follow them through. The 3 C's of a successful relationship are Caring, Consideration and Communication. Communication opens the door between us, consideration allows us to pass through it and our ability to care for each other unites us.


3: Truth is not truth out of timing- yet it remains truth. We are the timing to recognize truth.


4: The mind recoils from the unknown, so we seek to make everything known, and, thus sage. Imagination is the key to the unknown- positive, uplifting imagination.


5: For as long as we search for Our God Self, we deny that we are it. Loving your self reveals your truth.


To Be Continued...

~ Unknown Author

Self Help Mantra For Self Esteem

Recognising and tackling SELF-ESTEEM

Low self-esteem is known to be the ‘core’ of psychological problems. Here are ways to identify and tackle this menace.

Low self-esteem and lack of confidence can hold us back from achieving many things. It can also be detrimental to our physical and emotional well-being. The level of our self-esteem has profound consequences on every aspect of our existence – how we operate in our workplace, how we deal with people, how high we are likely to rise and how much we are likely to achieve.

The reasons of low self-esteem often begins during childhood. Even the most confident of adolescents can grow up to experience low self-esteem and start to feel unworthy. Adult life can be tough and it can sometimes feel like the ‘survival of the fittest’ and we’re all, at some point, going to bump into people who will try to belittle us.

Low self-esteem is best described as having a low opinion of oneself (either consciously or subconsciously), and feelings of being ‘worthless’. Yet the subject has not received the kind of attention that it deserves. Unless our self-esteem plummets to the extent that we can no longer handle our lives effectively.

CHARACTERISTICS OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM:

• General lack of participation
• Negative responses to questions
• Sluggish physical behaviour
• Excessive use of activities for escapism (TV, videos, internet, reading). Be careful of
over-analysing here as this alone is not an indicator
• Aggressive or argumentative behaviour
• Indecisiveness
• Unwillingness to try anything new (anything from new food through to goal setting)
• Inability to say no (need to be liked/loved by others by saying yes)
• Need to prove self-worth and ‘status’ by boasting, making public claims about capabilities
• Low self-esteem has been correlated with low life satisfaction, loneliness, anxiety,
resentment, irritability and depression.

Self Help Mantra For Building Trust

Trust is so fragile that is hard to put back to its original state when broken.

These simple tips on How to build Trust is dedicated to kids and their parents as well.

Tips How To Build Trust :

• Never tell a lie, always tell the truth. And, say it kindly and tactfully.
  
  
• Be real, do not act like somebody you are not.
  
  
• Do not gossip about other people’s life. The one you are talking to may think you are gossiping
  her at her back. The worst scene is – if she pass what you said to other people too.
  
  
• Never betray a confidence. Do not tell the secrets confided to you.
  
  
• Keep all the promises you made. If you cannot keep a promise, better not to promise at all.
  
  
• When you borrow something, always return it as soon as possible.

Self Help - Improve Self-Esteem & Boost Confidence

HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM AND BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

1) Accept Yourself
Firstly, you need to become more accepting of yourself and realise that nobody is perfect and that we all make mistakes from time to time and that this is natural and perfectly acceptable.

2) Recognise your talents
Another method of boosting self-confidence is to recognise talents, abilities and good qualities. Constantly remind ourselves of these and to give ourselves a pat on the back whenever we are able to utilise those abilities and qualities for the benefit of ourselves and others.

3) Embrace challenges
Never shy away from risks. You can end up stifling your own personal development and become more afraid to take risks if you perpetually do the same thing over and over again because it’s something you know that works. Life is an evolutionary process and things change all the time. For you to become confident, it’s crucial that you try out new experiences and embrace challenges and risks and see them as an opportunity for growth as opposed to something to be frightened of.

4) Never compare
Don’t judge yourself by competing with others. Everyone’s different. Some of us can jump higher than others, some of us can spell better but it’s important that we only aspire to do and to be the best that we can and not to compare ourselves with the achievements of others.

5) Consult a physician
If the above techniques do not seem to work, then see a counsellor or a physician who can guide on further treatment. Low self-esteem if untreated can lead to psychological problems too. With counselling sessions and homeopathic treatment, anyone can be treated from skin allergy but can regained their self esteem.

Self Help - Hoteling Tips - Part 2

13 Things Your Waiter Won't Tell You

7. Don't order meals that aren't on the menu. You're forcing the chef to cook something he doesn't make on a regular basis. If he makes the same entrance 10,000 times a month, the odds are good that the dish will be a home run every time.

8. Splitting entrances is okay, but don't ask for water, lemon, and sugar so you can make your own lemonade. What's next, grapes so you can press your own wine?

9. If you find a waiter you like, always ask to be seated in his or her section. Tell all your friends so they'll start asking for that server as well. You've just made that waiter look indispensable to the owner. The server will be grateful and take good care of you.

10. If you can't afford to leave a tip, you can't afford to eat in the restaurant. Servers could be giving 20 to 40 percent to the busboys, bartenders, or hostess.

11. Always examine the check. Sometimes large parties are unaware that a gratuity has been added to the bill, so they tip on top of it. Waiters "facilitate" this error. It's dishonest, it's wrong-and I did it all the time.

12. If you want to hang out, that's fine. But increase the tip to make up for money the server would have made if he or she had had another seating at that table.

13. Never, ever come in 15 minutes before closing time. The cooks are tired and will cook your dinner right away. So while you're chitchatting over salads, your entrances will be languishing under the heat lamp while the dishwasher is spraying industrial-strength , carcinogenic cleaning solvents in their immediate vicinity.

From Waiter Rant: Thanks for the Tip-Confessions of a Cynical Waiter by The Waiter (Ecco/HarperCollins )

Self Help - Hoteling Tips - Part 1

13 Things Your Waiter Won't Tell You

Waiters share insider secrets about restaurants -- from tipping to what days to avoid dining out:


1. Avoid eating out on holidays and Saturday nights. The sheer volume of customers guarantees that most kitchens will be pushed beyond their ability to produce a high-quality dish.

2. There are almost never any sick days in the restaurant business. A busboy with a kid to support isn't going to stay home and miss out on $100 because he's got strep throat. And these are the people handling your food.

3. When customers' dissatisfaction devolves into personal attacks, adulterating food or drink is a convenient way for servers to exact covert vengeance. Some waiters can and do spit in people's food.

4. Never say "I'm friends with the owner." Restaurant owners don't have friends. This marks you as a clueless poseur the moment you walk in the door.

5. Treat others as you want to be treated. (Yes, people need to be reminded of this.)

6. Don't snap your fingers to get our attention. Remember, we have shears that cut through bone in the kitchen.

Self Help Stress Mantra

Guide on How to Manage Stress

Stress Management is more than anger management and relaxation. It is self management. There are many different ways to manage stress. I have compiled the various stress management techniques that are simple and most effective to follow and practice. Please feel free to use as many as you can, keeping an open mind, so you can have a collection of techniques that are the most effective for you.


1. Feel Good about your Self

If you want to bring down your level of stress level in a matter of minutes, these techniques will help you. Use them as needed to feel better quickly; practice them regularly over time and gain even greater benefits.

Deep Breathing from the Abdomen
Meditation
Having a dose of Laughter
Progressive Muscular Relaxation
Listening to light music
Practicing Yoga
Aerobic Exercises
Creative Visualization


2. Take Care of Body

When we're stressed, we don't always take care of our bodies, which can lead to even more stress. Here are some important ways to take care of yourself and keep stress levels lower.

Eat Healthy low fats â€" high protein meals
Have six to eight hours of regular sleep
Exercise regularly
Develop a Hobby
Have healthy Sex Life


3. Develop the Right Attitude

Attitude plays a great role in managing stress. Much of your experience of stress has a lot to do with your attitude and the way you perceive your life's events. Here are some resources to help you maintain a stress-relieving attitude.

Let go your Ego
Have a Optimistic approach to life
Do not react under pressure
Stop Worrying about things not in your control
Accept that everything cannot be perfect
Find an opportunity in every problem
Say good things to your self â€" affirmations
Have a health sense of humour


4. Develop the Right Environment

Having ambiance and pleasant environment make stress management very easy. Your physical and emotional surroundings can impact your stress levels in subtle but significant ways. Here are several ways you can change your atmosphere and less your stress.

Clutter free home, office and working desk
Green and Clean surrounding
Light instrumental music
Motivational Posters
Words of Wisdom


5. Short Tips for Busy People

Busy People add a lot of stress to their already stressed life. People who may have more stressors in their lives is because they have more activity in their lives, and less time to devote to stress management. If you're a busy person, these resources can help you to manage stress efficiently in a short amount of time, and eliminate some of what's causing you stress in the first place.

Time Management Tips
Communication Skills
Listening Skills
Managing Priorities
Enhancing Team Work
Enhancing People Skills

Self Help Mantra For Peace Of Mind - Part 3

10 Principles For Peace of Mind - Part 3

8. Meditate Regularly :

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is thehighest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If youmeditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to becomepeaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind willnot be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by graduallyincreasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this willinterfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase yourefficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.


9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:

An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacantmind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile .Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You mustdecide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like socialwork or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you willhave a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are restingphysically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God'sname.


10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret :

Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days,weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. Youcan never plan enough because you can never anticipate all futurehappenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It doesnot matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes andsucceed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing.Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET.Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over spiltmilk?


Think Positive !!!

Self Help Mantra For Peace Of Mind - Part 2

10 Principles For Peace of Mind - Part 2

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment :

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are youwill fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you dothis, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, willmysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured :

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day weface numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that arebeyond our control... If we cannot control them or change them, we mustlearn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully.Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strengthand will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew :

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take moreresponsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done tosatisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads thatmay create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding yourexternal activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time inprayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts inyour mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greaterpeace of mind.

Self Help Mantra For Peace Of Mind

10 Principles For Peace of Mind

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others'affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our wayis the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do notconform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the rightdirection, our direction. This thinking denies the existence ofindividuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created eachone of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactlythe same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within themprompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget :

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop illfeelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. Wenurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development ofstomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was doneonce, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly rememberingit. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles.Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition :
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody withoutselfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but nosooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and willstart finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours lf in strivingfor their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Doyour duties ethically and sincerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous :

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. Youknow that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimesthey get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago,but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only oneyear old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Shouldyou be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny,which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich,nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one canhelp you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for yourmisfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away yourpeace of mind.

Self Help - Management Tips

Five (5) good management characteristics:

A good boss knows how to delegate responsibilities. Some managers are too hands-on when it comes to managing their staff. This kind of manager usually performs part of the job and leaves the problem to his subordinates for them to solve. A good way to delegate duties is to let your people complete their work and refrain from doing their jobs for them. Interfering with their jobs means you do not trust their work. As a manager, it is your responsibility to develop the skills of your people so they can become future managers like you.

A good boss knows how to support his subordinates. Employees are expected to encounter daily problems as they perform their work. It is the responsibility of their manager to help them get around in solving these problems. However, managers must teach their staff to solve their crisis especially if it is within their level. Do not let your staff make you the go-to-person even on petty things. Do not allow them to make you their nanny and require you to solve their booboos.

A good manager gives credit to a job well done. Bad managers not only steal ideas from their staff but also demand credit for. It is a mistake for managers to feel threatened when his staff show superlative performance. In fact, credit will be given to the manager every time their staff perform effectively and efficiently. In short, a confident manager knows how to recognize performing staff and credits their outstanding work all the time.

A good manager is not assertive. Traditional managers are very particular with authority. They feel they should dominate everyone who is below them. They think they are superior to their staff in terms of brain power. Ideally, a good manager should look at his staff as business partners because they are your soldiers that will help you accomplish your management goals. Therefore, you must listen to their suggestions (or even complaints) and agree with it if acceptable.

A good manager treats his staff equally. Treat your staff as if they are your own children. They have different personalities and different talents. Some of them are performers and some of them may be the black sheep of the team. You cannot hand-pick the performers and disregard the lazybones. Whatever the type of species they may have, your job as their manager is to utilized their skills and put their talents on the right perspective.

Self Help Scar Tips : How to Get Rid of Acne Scars

Scars left by acne on skin appear ugly. This leaves a painful impressions on the patient, people genuinely try to get rid of these scars. They try everything from topical creams, to gels, pills and lotions to remove these scars. Everyone wants flawless skin. However, acne marks may make you feel like hiding your face inside a pillow. Acne scars develop as soon as you pop pimple or squeeze it out. Popping or squeezing results in a permanent mark at the affected area. The deeper you have peeled the skin, the darker is the mark. Most of the times this action leaves a scar and it gets very difficult to get rid off this scar. Don't panic if you have already developed an acne scar.

There are some home remedies that will help you eliminate these scars on your face. Here are some tricks to solve your problem:

A) Take fresh juice of lemon. Now dip a cotton ball in it. Pat your face with the cotton ball and let it dry naturally. Some people may find this a little irritating. You may dilute the lemon juice with some rose water or plain water. Let the surface dry naturally for 15-20 minutes and wash your face with water after a while. Repeat this process at least four times a week and you will see a remarkable change in your skin structure.

B) Prepare a paste with some sandalwood powder and rose-water. Now add 2-4 drops of lime juice to it. Apply this paste on your face and neck. Now, let the solution dry naturally. After that, you need to rinse your face and neck thoroughly. Do this on a regular basis to get best results.

C) Applying cucumber juice on your face with cotton wool. This should be your daily regime during summers. This will help cooling off the skin and tighten the pores. Cucumber juice is extremely helpful in making your skin glow and makes it feel fresh.

D) Another popular homemade remedy for removing acne marks into make a paste of apple and honey. First, make apple paste and then add about 4-6 drops of honey. Apply this mask on your face. Wash off after 15 minutes. This paste helps tightening pores and also makes complexion lighter.

There are some technical procedures that will help you get rid of acne scars:

A) Dermabrasion : This is different from micro-dermabrasion that removes top layer of dead surface skin cells from the face. Dermabrasion is actually a coarser method that removes further layers. The dermatologist will numb your face and then remove layers. The recovery time takes about a couple of weeks. Your skin will scab. Once the scab falls, you will get fresh and glowing skin.

B) Laser resurfacing : This is a method that cleans away pimples and get rid of acne scars. The use of laser is prominent in this method. CO2 laser and YAG laser are the two lasers used commonly in this procedure. This procedure removes the top layers of the skin that has been damaged. The recovery time is a couple of weeks. Your doctor may also apply a topical ointment for speeding up the recovery process.

C) Augmentation : Here, the dermatologist injects fillers usually collagen under the skin. This smoothens acne scarred area. The doctor may take fat from other places in your body and inject instead of collagen. The Recovery period is fast.

NOTE : Always consult a dermatologist prior to deciding on a treatment for acne.

Self Help Tips - Cloud Computing

In their quest to find answers, experts have demonstrated that the future of medical discoveries, environmental challenges, energy deficit, all lie in collaborating through ‘Cloud Computing’.

With Cloud Computing, users have been able to access data, share expertise and high-end infrastructure from around the world, and vice-versa. The resources are shared through a public platform like the internet. Several companies like Amazon, IBM, Microsoft, etc have invested heavily as they reach out to users.

Cloud Computing companies have customers of three kinds -

Infrastructure-as-a-service:
Option of renting and utilizing computing power and storage capacity of vendor's quality.

Software-as-a-Service (SaaS):
Vendors license particular services to subscribers on-demand and once the contract expires, the services are disabled.

Platform-as-a-Service:
Here a developer is given the opportunity to utilize various web-tools to build and host applications.

The Cloud (other computers in the network) does have its pros and cons in this formative stage.

Advantages include : Better performance by PCs in the cloud network, as fewer processing will be loading in each individual PC, the rest on the Cloud. No more spending on computer upgrades, instead services of another high-power PC can be made use of. Lesser hardware and software required, so costs of maintenance are tremendously lowered. Permanence of data, as all information stays in the cloud, even if you experience a hard-disk crash. Sync with experts worldwide on multiple projects and avail optimum results through the Cloud. Work from any PC and on the move, with the availability of internet access.

Cloud Computing also has some drawbacks like,
The over-dependence on the providers.
The reliability of the vendors.
Protection laws in different countries vary. For eg, according to EU data protection regulation, personal information cannot be transferred outside the European Economic Area.

Threat of unauthorized access to confidential data.
Requires internet throughout and near-impossible to work with dial-up connections.
The concept isn't entirely new and is evolving even today. In the recent past, several variations have been introduced through 'Grid' and 'Utility Computing'.
- Grid Computing is a virtual super-computer formed by a cluster of computers in concert, each performing complex tasks.
- Utility Computing is a format in which subscribers are charged based on their usage, similar to the way in electricity is charged.

As new developments take place with increasing frequency, your world is on the brink of transition.

Source : ResonanceIT

Self Help Tips - Natural Ways to Lighten Your Skin

Natural Ways to Lighten Your Skin

Skin Dark spots, and freckles, and skin-damage - oh my! Looking to lighten your complexion? Every shade of skin is beautiful, but as we grow older our skin tone can change. Freckles may appear, dark spots can arise, and skin may not be as light as it once was. So, if you're still not ready to embrace your dark side, read on for a few natural whitening tips and tricks.

Use Sunblock
One of the easiest ways to stay fair is to use sunblock on a daily basis. Find a moisturizer that includes an SPF of 15 or higher and use it every morning after washing your face. Sunblock not only prevents your skin from getting darker, but also blocks harmful UV rays that can cause cancer and premature aging. Remember your hands when applying sunblock, as they are a prime area for age spots.

Exfoliate
Exfoliating once a week will remove dead skin cells to lighten and brighten your skin. Mix two tablespoons oatmeal and two tablespoons brown sugar with a quarter cup of milk, and stir until a paste forms. Gently scrub your face, rinse, and moisturize.

Make a Mask
A homemade mask is a great way to lighten your skin and a good excuse to kick back on the couch. Try using one once a week. Use one tablespoon of each of the following: sandalwood paste, lemon juice, tomato juice, and cucumber juice. Mix them all together to form a paste. Spread the mixture on your face and wait until it dries. Rinse and moisturize for a natural glow.

Licorice Extract
Licorice extract contains glabridin, a component that acts as a natural skin whitener. Apply a thin layer of the extract morning and evening, after you wash your face and before you moisturize. Licorice extract can be found at any health food store or ordered online. Be sure to store the bottle in a cool, dark place to maintain freshness. Note: test a small amount on the back of your arm before using on your face to be sure you do not have an allergic reaction.

Remember to love your skin no matter what color it is. It's a part of who you are and that's what makes you beautiful and unique.

Self Help Tips - Dealing Burdens of Life

Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life :

* Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.
* Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
* Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.
* Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.
* If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it...
* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to be kind to others.
* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.
* Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.
* Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
* The second mouse gets the cheese.
* When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
* Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
* You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.
* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.
* We could learn a lot from crayons ... some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colours, but they all have to live in the same box.
* A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour

Keep Getting New Things in Life !!

Theory of Emptiness

Have you got the habit of accumulating money , and not spending it because you think that in the future you may be in want of it? Have you got the habit of storing clothes, shoes, furniture, utensils and other home supplies that you haven’t used already for some time? And inside yourself...? Have you got the habit to keep reproaches, resentment, sadness, fears and more?

Don’t do it! You are going against your prosperity!

It is necessary to make room, to leave an empty space in order to allow new things to arrive to your life. It is necessary that you get rid of all the useless things that are in you and in your life, in order to prosperity to arrive. The force of this emptiness is one that will absorb and attract all that you wish. As long as you are, materially or emotionally, holding old and useless feelings, you won’t have room for new opportunities.

Goods must circulate....

Clean your drawers, the wardrobes, the workshop, the garage...

Give away what you don’t use any longer...

The attitude of keeping a heap of useless stuff ties your life down. It’s not the objects you keep that stagnate your life... but rather the attitude of keeping...

When we keep in store, we consider the possibility of wanting, of penury.. we believe that tomorrow it may lack, and that we won’t be able to fulfil those necessities. . With that idea, you are sending two messages to your brain and to your life.

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Self help Tips - Kinesic, The Body Language

Kinesics

Kinesics is the interpretation of body language such as facial expressions and gestures — or, more formally, non-verbal behaviour related to movement, either of any part of the body or the body as a whole.

The term was first used (in 1952) by Ray Birdwhistell, a ballet dancer turned anthropologist who wished to study how people communicate through posture, gesture, stance, and movement. Part of Birdwhistell's work involved making film of people in social situations and analyzing them to show different levels of communication not clearly seen otherwise..

Drawing heavily on descriptive linguistics, Birdwhistell argued that all movements of the body have meaning (ie. are not accidental), and that these non-verbal forms of language (or paralanguage) have a grammar that can be analysed in similar terms to spoken language. Thus, a "kineme" is "similar to a phoneme because it consists of a group of movements which are not identical, but which may be used interchangeably without affecting social meaning"

Birdwhistell estimated that "no more than 30 to 35 percent of the social meaning of a conversation or an interaction is carried by the words."

A few Birdwhistell-isms are as follows :
• Social personality is a temporo-spatial system. All behaviors evinced by any such system are components of the system except as related to different levels of abstractions.
• Even if no participant of an interaction field can recall, or repeat in a dramatized context, a given series or sequence of body motions, the appearance of a motion is of significance to the general study of the particular kinesic system even if the given problem can be rationalized without reference to it.
• All meaningful body motion patterns are to be regarded as socially learned until empirical investigation reveals otherwise.
• No kineme ever stands alone.

In one current application, kinesics are used as signs of deception by interviewers. Interviewers look for clusters of movements to determine the veracity of the statement being uttered. Some related words may be:
• Emblems a substitute for words and phrases
• Illustrators accompany or reinforce verbal messages
• Affect Displays Show emotion
• Regulators Control the flow and pace of communication
• Adaptors Release physical or emotional tension

Kinesics are an important part of non-verbal communication behavior. The movement of the body, or separate parts, conveys many specific meanings and the interpretations may be culture bound. As many movements are carried out at a subconscious or at least a low-awareness level, kinesic movements carry a significant risk of being misinterpreted in an intercultural communications situation.

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Self Help Tips - How To Appear Thin - Part 2

Step 11 - To hide a variety of sins wear a skirt with a slight flare. Stay away from clingy fabrics which will accentuate areas of heaviness. This will make you appear like you weigh less.

Step 12 - Wear a tank with another shirt on top for a layered effect. Tops that have a cut that tapers toward the waist give an hourglass effect which helps give you a shape.

Step 13 - Wearing pants with vertical stripes are great. This can make you look like you have lost weight without ever having done any exercise or diet.

Step 14 - Fitted suits that have vertical striping and a tapered waist are great. Make sure it fits. Wear a fitted top underneath. This is a very slimming look.

Step 15 - Do not expose too much cleavage. Tops should fit, but not be overly tight. Tight clothing can expose bulges that may make you appear heavier. In order to appear like you have lost weight, be sure your clothes are fitted correctly.

Step 16 - Do wear v-necks and oval shaped tops. These cut into the body to give a slimming effect.

Step 17 - If you wear a baggier top, wear a fitted bottom. This will give you balance and contribute to a slimmer appearance.

Step 18 - Wear half sleeves that are fitted to cover trouble spots such as heavy arms. This can make you look like you have lost 10 pounds.

Step 19 - Shorts should be fitted and slightly flared. They should extend to the knee to create a look of length.

Step 20 - A pencil skirt will work if there is a slight flare on the bottom, and the top is longer, belted and somewhat fitted, or flowy and soft.

Step 21 - Try on many different styles. Be real with yourself. Look in the mirror in the department store and really be critical. Ask yourself if you would like this on someone else of the same size. Follow the guidelines listed above to choose clothes to make you appear thinner.

Step 22 - Do not be afraid to go out of your style zone. Being up to date and stylish will detract from any perceived flaws you may have. Looking thinner without diet or weight loss is possible by using the guidelines listed above. You do not have to lose weight to appear thinner. Dressing the part can make you appear like you have lost 10 pounds overnight.

Concluded.

Source : DSD Email Group

Stressed Out - Try Out a Thai Massage...

Stressed Out? Body knotted with tension? The mind fatigued? Spirit jaded with 21st century demands on your time, energy and talents? And yearning for a massage that will rejuvenate you, iron the kinks in your body, put new life into your soul....but are shy of stripping off before the therapist and reluctant to have herbal oils rubbed into you? Then the traditional, deep tissue Thai massage is what you should look for yourself today.

Often called the Yoga Massage, this therapy is oil free and you have to wear loose cotton pyjamas and shirt for the treatment. The therapists, in this case, combine gentle and vigorous pressure to relieve tired muscles and joints. They may even walk on your back, use their elbows and knees to get at muscles storing years of accumulated stress. Or stretch your body in possible yoga postures. The purpose is to unblock stagnant energy in 72,000 meridians or energy points to increase the flow of prana - the life force in the body. The massage is strongly linked to the spiritual practice of Buddhism and it is believed that intrinsic energy flows between the practioner who heals and recipient who is healed as a result.

The benefits of this Thai massage are huge, they include stress and pain relief, improved circulation in blood they lumphatic system, body realignment and improved digestion.

You can avial this massage in Mumbai, India at Cosmic Mandala 15 - The Spa, on its open terrace pavillion or in the privacy of a cool and dark room. You may even have it with a partner. The spa is open from 10:30am to 9pm.

Cosmic Mandala 15 - The Spa, C-5, Amarchand Mansion, Madam Cama Road, Mumbai - 400 020. Phone : +91-22-22043737. Email : heymal.kampani@cosmicmandala15.com

Self Help Tips - How To Appear Thin - Part 1

HOW TO Appear Thinner?

We all want to appear the best we can no matter what our size. Maybe you have a few extra pounds and want to camouflage them.You do not always have to lose weight in order to appear thinner. Here are some tips that will make you look and feel as if you have experienced weight loss.

Instructions :

Step 1 - If you are heavy on the bottom, wear a solid color on your bottom half. Stay away from patterns and bright colors. Wear patterns on top to detract attention from your lower half. You will appear more balanced and look thinner without having to lose weight.

Step 2 - If you are heavy on top, reverse this. Wear bottoms that have more detail, and tops that are simple and plain. Again, this minimizes your top half, and makes you appear thinner all over.

Step 3 - To give yourself the appearance of a waist, wear longer, fitted shirts that come just below the lower belly. Wear a wide belt or scarf around your waist area. You will give the appearance of a slimmer waistline.

Step 4 - Do not wear clothes too loose. This does not camouflage, but only gives the appearance of sloppiness. Wear clothes that are form fitting to appear thinner.

Step 5 - Do not wear clothes that are too tight either. We do not to overly accentuate bumps or bulges. This will only make you appear heavier than you actually are. You will look like you have lost weight if you wear clothes that fit your body.

Step 6 - Wear heels. They make you taller and that makes you appear thinner without having to actually lose weight or diet.

Step 7 - Spanx are great for slimming you down. They are comfortable and can make you appear 3-4 sizes smaller without diet or exercise.

Step 8 - With pants wear a slightly flared leg so that you do not look thigh heavy. This will give your leg a balanced look all the way down which makes you look taller and thinner.

Step 9 - Always choose dark jeans. A cut that goes slightly above the belly button, with a light flare in the leg will be most flattering. Darker jeans are instantly slimming.

Step 10 - Pockets of pants should be high up on the rear to accentuate the buttocks. In order to appear thinner, avoid pockets that are low on the rear.

Step 11 - To hide a variety of sins wear a skirt with a slight flare. Stay away from clingy fabrics which will accentuate areas of heaviness. This will make you appear like you weigh less.

To Be Continued....

Job stress can harm women’s fertility : Study

CURVES OF SUCCESS?

‘Career Women Have Lower Levels Of Oestrogen, Vital For Conceiving’. A slimwaisted, non-curvy shape favours women in competition, particularly under stressful and difficult circumstances. Such androgynous figures indicate low levels of oestrogen, say researchers

Melbourne : The modern women with successful careers and high stress levels to match may be damaging their chances of having children, a study has found. According to the research, which involved international comparison of women in 37 different populations and cultures, career women are more likely to have androgynous figures which indicate higher levels of androgens, as opposed to oestrogen, which is vital for conceiving successfully.

Women with more shapely figures have higher levels of oestrogen, reports the Daily Telegraph. The study, published in the recent issue of the journal Current Anthropology, reached its conclusion by examining the shape of women around the world by comparing their waist-to-hip ratio. This ratio is calculated by dividing a woman’s waist circumference by the circumference of her hips.

University of Utah anthropologist Elizabeth Cashdan says there is evidence the hormonal profile linked to a slimwaisted, non-curvy shape favours women in “resource competition, particularly under stressful and difficult circumstances”. The findings claim that females who are driven to succeed suffer a hormonal shift with their oestrogen levels affected by increases of androgens, hormones linked to competitiveness and strength.

For a comparison, the study looked at the measurements of 240 Playboy centrefolds and found they had an average waist-to-hip ratio of 0.68. The average female waist-to-hip ratio is 0.82.


Source : ANI

Self help - Tips for a Healthy Holiday - Part 2

While you are there - eat and drink wisely

The most common travel related illnesses are gastrointestinal diseases usually picked up from poorly prepared foods or untreated water. To avoid the diarrhoea, stomach pains, nausea and vomiting associated with these illnesses:

* Use boiled or bottled water, or water purifiers or tablets.
* Avoid ice in drinks.
* Avoid unpasteurised milk and dairy products.
* Avoid fruit and vegetables that have been washed in the local water.
* Eat thick-skinned fruit and vegetables that you can peel yourself, such as bananas, oranges and mandarins.
* Make sure food is cooked thoroughly and eat it while it’s hot.
* Avoid shellfish.
* Don’t buy food from street stalls - hotels and busy restaurants are safest.
* Take care with personal hygiene.

While you are there - avoid insect bites

Some serious infectious diseases such as malaria, yellow fever and dengue fever, are transmitted by insect bites. While there are vaccines and drugs available to help protect against some of these diseases, travellers are advised to always protect against mosquito bites. Some tips include:

* Wear mosquito repellent that contains at least 30 per cent DEET.
* Stay indoors between dusk and dawn. The mosquitoes carrying the malaria parasite generally feed at this time.
* Apply repellent, such as permethrin, to your clothes and bedding.
* Wear socks, long pants, and long-sleeve shirts when outdoors.
* Use a bed net.
* Stay in airconditioned, screened accommodation.

Protect yourself against sexually transmitted diseases

HIV-AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases are endemic in many countries, particularly in Africa and Southeast Asia. Safe sex practices are essential.

Things to remember

* Overseas travellers have a 50 per cent chance of suffering from a travel-related illness.
* The most common travel-related sickness is gastrointestinal infection which is generally picked up from poorly prepared food and untreated water.
* Have a medical checkup to make sure you are healthy before you travel.
* Discuss vaccinations with your doctor.
* Be prepared and aware of health issues when travelling

Self help - Tips for a Healthy Holiday - Part 1

People who travel overseas have up to a 50 per cent chance of suffering a travel-related illness. While most travel-related illness is minor, some very serious infectious diseases are endemic in some parts of the world. All travellers should be prepared for travel and be aware of health issues and measures to protect themselves from sickness.Before you travel

Prepare for a healthy holiday :

* Have a medical check-up. Make sure you are healthy before you travel.
* Update your vaccinations and ask about other immunisations.
* Pack a medical kit for yourself and any children travelling with you. Make sure you pack enough of any medications you need, or take a prescription.
* Organise travel insurance, including cover if you need to be evacuated to a suitable hospital.
* Have a dental checkup.
* Have a vision check and pack a spare pair of glasses.

Vaccinations
You may want to arrange vaccinations or drugs to protect against diseases such as hepatitis, typhoid or malaria. In fact, some countries legally require travellers to have certain vaccinations, such as yellow fever. As you will need to have some vaccinations weeks or months before travel, it is best to see your doctor six to eight weeks before you go. However, if you have to travel at short notice, you can still have some vaccines. Your doctor will be able to advise which vaccines are suitable depending on:

* Your medical history and age
* Your destination and likely accommodation
* The season in which you are travelling
* The length of stay
* The type of travel, for example bus tour or backpack.

Tips for older travellers
For older people, the risk of death or serious illness while travelling is the same, or even less, than staying at home. However, planning is important and older travellers should consider the following before they travel:

* See your doctor for a checkup and discuss your fitness for the trip you are planning.
* See your dentist and optometrist.
* Pack a spare pair of glasses, any medications you need and a small medical kit.
* Organise travel health insurance with pre-existing illness cover if needed. Make sure it covers emergency evacuation.
* Make sure routine immunisations are up-to-date and get vaccinated against influenza and pneumonia.
* Consider your back - use luggage with built in wheels.
* Take clothes and hats to suit the climate.
* If concerned about your health, consider taking an organised holiday.

Tips for travellers with a disability
Travellers with a disability will need to make sure in advance that their needs can be accommodated while travelling and should consider the following:

* Make arrangements for wheelchairs, guide dogs, and seating needs well in advance.
* Find out about the medical facilities in the areas you will be visiting.
* Get a letter from your doctor detailing your medical requirements or conditions.
* Carry a Medic-alert tag.

Source : DSD Group Email

Self Help Computer Tips - Shortcut for MS Outlook

Here are a list of shortcuts to help you move faster in Microsoft Outlook:

Alt + . (period) Open the Address Book with the To field selected
Alt + A Open the Action drop-down menu
Alt + B Open the Address Book with the BCC field selected
Alt + C Select message recipients for CC field
Alt + D Switch to Daily calendar view
Alt + E Open the Edit drop-down menu
Alt + F Open the File drop-down menu
Alt + G Open the Go drop-down menu
Alt + H Open the Help drop-down menu
Alt + I Open the Find tool bar / Open the Insertdrop-down menu
Alt + J Move to the Subject field
Alt + K Check names in the To, CC, or BCC field against the Address Book
(cursor must be in the corresponding message header field)
Alt + L Reply All
Alt + M Switch to Monthly calendar view
Alt + N Open the Accounts drop-down menu
Alt + O Open the Format drop-down menu /Switch to Today calendar view
Alt + P Open the Message Options dialog box
Alt + R Reply / Switch to Work Week Calendar view
Alt + S Send
Alt + T Open the Tools drop-down menu
Alt + V Open the View drop-down menu
Alt + W Forward an item / Switch to Weekly calendar view
Alt + Y Switch to Daily calendar view
Ctrl + 1 Go to Mail
Ctrl + 2 Go to Calendar
Ctrl + 3 Go to Contacts
Ctrl + 4 Go to Tasks
Ctrl + 5 Go to Notes
Ctrl + 6 Go to Folder List
Ctrl + 7 Go to Shortcuts
Ctrl + 8 Go to Journal
Ctrl + A Select all
Ctrl + B Bold when editing a rich text message
Ctrl + C Copy
Ctrl + D Delete an item (message, task, contact, etc.)
Ctrl + E Activate the Find drop-down menu /Center Align when editing a rich text message
Ctrl + F Forward
Ctrl + J Open a new Journal Entry from the selected item (message, task, contact, etc.)
Ctrl + K Check names in the To, CC, or BCC field against the Address Book (cursor must be in the corresponding message header field)
Ctrl + M Send/Receive all
Ctrl + O Open
Ctrl + P Print
Ctrl + Q Mark the selected message Read
Ctrl + R Reply
Ctrl + S Save a draft message
Ctrl + T Tab
Ctrl + U Mark the selected message Unread
Ctrl + V Paste
Ctrl + X Cut
Ctrl + Y Go to Folder
Ctrl + Z Undo
Ctrl + Backspace Delete the previous word
Ctrl + End Move to the end
Ctrl + Home Move to the beginning
Ctrl + Shift + A Open a new Appointment
Ctrl + Shift + B Open the Address Book
Ctrl + Shift + C Create a new Contact
Ctrl + Shift + E Open a new folder
Ctrl + Shift + F Open the Advanced Find window
Ctrl + Shift + G Flag message for follow up
Ctrl + Shift + J Open a new Journal Entry
Ctrl + Shift + K Open a new Task
Ctrl + Shift + L Open a new Distribution List
Ctrl + Shift + M Open a new Message
Ctrl + Shift + N Open a new Note
Ctrl + Shift + O Switch to the Outbox
Ctrl + Shift + P Open the New Search Folder window
Ctrl + Shift + Q Open a new Meeting Request
Ctrl + Shift + R Reply All
Ctrl + Shift + S Open a new Discussion
Ctrl + Shift + U Open a new Task Request
Ctrl + Shift + Y Copy a Folder
Shift + Tab Select the previous message header button or field
F1 Open Outlook Help
F3 Activate the Find toolbar
F4 Open the Find window
F7 Spellcheck
F9 Send and receive all
F10 Select File from the Outlook toolbar button
F11 Activate the “Find a contact” dialog box
F12 Save As
Alt + F4 Close the active window

Career Self Help - Forensic Nursing

Forensic Nursing

The term forensic nursing was first coined in 1992 by a team of about 70 nurses who specialized in sexual assault examination. This led to the foundation of an organization called the International Association of Forensic Nurses (IAFN), which today is the official association of forensic nurses.

Forensic nursing is a specialty field that deals with the care of crime victims, collecting evidences and providing health care services in the prison system. It collectively deals with the health care and judicial system. Forensic nurses' responsibilities vary as per their specialized field. They may perform death investigations, examine victims of sexual assault, or work with criminals in prison. They can also counsel schoolchildren who have gone off-track, work in emergencies, and provide consultation services. They may also train their colleagues on how to treat injured patients.

Forensic nurses can do their specialization in Forensic Clinical Nurse Specialist, Forensic Nurse Investigator, Nurse Coroner/Death Investigator, Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner, Legal Nurse Consultant, Forensic Gerontology Specialist, Forensic Psychiatric Nurse, and Correctional Nursing Specialist.

There are various opportunities available for employment in forensic nursing such as nurses can work with crime scene units of various police departments, private and public crime labs, private investigators and federal law enforcement agencies such as the FBI and homeland security. Forensic nurses can also work with detective agencies, district attorneys, and victims' advocates, all of whom may investigate the crimes.

Forensic nurses' salaries diversely vary as per their roles. Forensic nurses who work as independent consultants can earn high hourly rates. However, full time employee in emergency rooms or the medical examiners' office may work in regular shifts and earn lower salaries.

Forensic nursing is a new and upcoming specialty. Currently forensic nurses do not need an advanced degree or certificate to work in the field, but the American Nurses Association has been working to establish a core curriculum for it. There are many schools, which provide specialization in forensic nursing. One of the ways is to enroll with an online distance-learning program from one of the several colleges around the country. Many colleges also offer online nursing certification courses that help nurses earn the qualifications as per the specifications for forensic nursing.

Nursing provides detailed information on Nursing, Online Nursing Education, Nursing Scrubs, Nursing Liability Insurance and more. Nursing is affiliated with Registered Nurses.

Self Help Love Advice - Clean The Mess !

CLEAN UP THE MESS IN YOUR LOVE LIFE !!

Love is supposed to bring sunshine and happiness into one’s life. If your love life is not brightening up your mood and is, it seems, filling you up with a huge amount of grief instead, then it’s time for de-toxifying your relationship.

Here are five simple tips to help you clean up the mess in your love life.

Start talking

Negativities don’t emerge in a single day. They generally build up over a long period of time. If your relationship is plagued with bad vibes today, it’s because you never bothered to sort out the mess before. So talk with your partner about issues that are draining away the fun and happiness from your life. Tell your partner what you feel about them and what this relationship means to you. Tell him/her about things you like and you detest. Spend time just talking and bonding with each other. The immediate benefits of effective communication will surely leave you surprised.

Change your habits

Adjusting a little as per your partner’s needs is a must to make any relationship work. If she dislikes your habit of coming late every time or flirting with other women in front of her, you might as well change these to let peace prevail in your life. It’s really not much of a price for a happy relationship, so go for it.

Accept the issues

Look for mutually acceptable solutions. She is not giving you enough space, or you, in your turn, are getting too curious or possessive about her... Well, whatever the issues may be, you need to accept them as real and arrive at solutions to solve the problem. Do it now before the bond gets severed beyond repair.

Respect emotions

It’s very important to have a partner who respects you for what you are, who trusts you and knows how to read between the lines. This may, of course, take some time to master and for a good and healthy relationship to come about, but you can begin by not passing rude comments about their beliefs, looks and mannerisms.

Go on a holiday

Sometimes boredom kills all the excitement that is necessary to keep a relationship alive and kicking. This lack of excitement that gives way to negativity is a sure shot killer. So infuse some passion and excitement in your relationship by taking a quick romantic break. A weekend holiday is the best option, keeping hectic schedules in mind.


Source : TNN

Self Help Career Tips - Negotiate Higher Salary

How to Negotiate a Higher Salary

Negotiating a higher salary is the last but trickiest part of securing a new job or keeping yourself happy in your current one. By negotiating a higher salary, you and your employer are letting each other know what the expectations are in terms of workload and compensation. With information and preparation, you will be able to negotiate for the higher salary you want and achieve positive results.

Step 1
Research what the market rate is for your position. Then you will know how much you should expect to negotiate.

Step 2
Look over your job description. Whether you are a new employee or a current one, it is important to consider what’s expected of you and whether the salary your company is offering adequately covers those expectations.

Step 3
Round up your accomplishments. How much money have you saved the company or past companies? How much money have you made for them? Your hiring manager, recruiter or boss may ask you these questions when salary negotiations commence. Have the answers.

Step 4
Plan what you want to say before you meet with human resources or the boss. Do not try to negotiate a higher salary over email or telephone; salary negotiations should take place in a scheduled meeting.

Step 5
Listen carefully to the counteroffer. Carefully consider the comments or feedback he or she is providing. Ask questions if you need clarification or elaboration.

Step 6
Get the final offer in writing after salary negotiations end. If the company doesn’t record the terms of your agreement, it is almost certainly subject to change.

Source: E-How.com

Powerful Secrets That Will Change Your Life - Part 3

One Dozen Timeless Ways to be Happy!

No matter how you define happiness for yourself, there are certain universal and time-proven strategies to bring, and sustain, more happiness into your life.

Pursue Your Goals
The absence of goals in our lives, or more specifically avoiding to pursue our goals, makes us feel like we are stuck and ineffective. The pursuit of goals in our personal lives, in our relationships, or with our careers, is the difference between having a mediocre life or a life full of passion and enthusiasm. Pursue your goals and watch your happiness soar.

Finding Your Calling
Some find meaning in religion or spirituality while others find purpose in their work or relationships. Finding your calling may be much more than accomplishing one simple strategy for increasing your happiness, but having a sense of purpose of feeling like you are here for a reason can perhaps bring the greatest joy of all.

Get into the Flow
Flow is the form of joy, excitement and happiness that occurs when we are so absorbed in an activity we love that we can lose ourselves and time seems to stand still. What creates flow is unique to each one of us. To find and sustain true happiness in our lives, we must get off the sidelines and get into the flow.
And two more just to sweeten the pot a little more.

Play to Your Strengths
One way to achieve flow is by understanding and identifying our strengths and core values, and then begin to use these every day. Once we aware of our strengths and we begin to play to your strengths we can better incorporate them in all aspects of our lives.

Don't Overdo It.
Know when to say when. What gives you joy and happiness the first time may not work the second time. Too much of a good thing may begin not to feel as good if the “thing" becomes more of a routine, or an expectation. Set healthy and reasonable boundaries for yourself and don't overdo it.

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Powerful Secrets That Will Change Your Life - Part 2

One Dozen Timeless Ways to be Happy!

Our passions, expectations, life experiences, and even our personalities all contribute to the level of happiness we experience in our lives. Some find happiness in their careers while others find ways to be happy in their marriages or other relationships

Spend Time with Your Friends
Although an abundant social and romantic life does not itself guarantee joy, it does have a huge impact on our happiness. Learn to spend time with your friends and make the friendships a priority in your life. Savor Every Moment To be in the moment is to live in the moment. Too often we are thinking ahead or looking ahead to the next event or circumstance in our lives, not appreciating the "here and now". When we savor every moment, we are savoring the happiness in our lives.

Rest
There are times when we need the time to unwind, decompress, or to put it simply, just “to chill". Life comes at all of us hard and fast. Time, as do the days on the calendar, keeps going forward at its own natural pace, which is not always the pace we would choose. Fatigue, stress and exhaustion may begin to settle in on us faster than we may think, or notice. The best remedy for this is indeed rest.

Move!
The expression a “runner's high" does not infer an addiction, but a feeling or a state of mind - a state of euphoria. There is no question exercise, or any physical exertion, elevates your mood and enhances a more positive attitude as well as fosters better personal self-esteem and confidence. Indeed, one way to increase your happiness is to move!

Put on a Happy Face

Sometimes we have to fake it until we make it. I'm not suggesting that we not be honest, real or authentic, but I'm suggesting, sometimes, we just need to put on a happy face and keep moving forward. Researchers claim that smiling and looking like we are happy will indeed make us happier. Studies further show that if we act like we are happy then we can experience greater joy and happiness in our lives.

Source : DSD Group Email

Powerful Secrets That Will Change Your Life - Part 1

One Dozen Timeless Ways to be Happy!

The following one dozen timeless ways to be happy can be adapted and even customized to fit your needs. Over time, these strategies will become positive and life-changing habits that will begin to bring more happiness, joy and peace into your life.

Notice What's Right
Some of us see the glass as being half-full and others see the glass as half-empty. The next time you are caught in traffic, begin thinking how nice it is to have a few moments to reflect on the day, focus on a problem you have been trying to solve, or brainstorm on your next big idea. The next time you get in the slow line at the grocery store, take the opportunity to pick up a tabloid magazine and do some reading. Take all that life throws out you and reframe it with what's right about the situation. At the end of the day, you will more content, at peace and happy. Take the time to begin to notice what's right and see the world change in front of your eyes.

Be Grateful

How many times do you say the words “thank you, in a day? How many times do you hear these same words? If you are doing the first thing, saying the “thank you" the latter will naturally happen. Learn to be grateful and you will be open to receive an abundance of joy and happiness.

Remember the Kid You Were
Do you remember how to play? I'm not referring to playing a round of golf or a set of tennis. I'm talking about playing like you did when you were a child a game of tag; leap frog, or street baseball when the bat is a broken broom handle and the bases are the parked cars. One way to find or maintain your happiness is to remember the kid you were and play!

Be Kind
There is no question that by merely watching acts of kindness creates a significant elevation in our moods and increases the desire for us to perform good deeds as well. Kindness is indeed contagious and when we make a commitment to be kind to ourselves and to others we can experience new heights of joy, happiness and enthusiasm for our lives.

Source : DSD Group Email

Self Help Web - Running Out of Web Addresses

We may run out of web addresses in 2 yrs !!

Father Of Internet Urges Users To Switch To Next Generation Of Net Addresses To Stay Connected

London: Vint Cerf, the “father of the internet”, has warned that the world is on the verge of running out of the web addresses that allow computers to identify and communicate with each other.

Cerf, one of the world’s leading computer scientists, has asserted that there’s and immediate need for businesses and consumers to switch to the next generation of net addresses. Every computer and online device is assigned a unique IP address, but according to estimates, the pool of unallocated numbers will soon run dry.

IP addresses are as crucial to websites as street addresses are for businesses but some network engineers predict that we will run out of them in two years. However, Cerf has said that it’s high time that preparations are made now, otherwise some computers might not be able to go online and the connectivity of the internet might be damaged.

He also said that particularly internet service providers are needed to get ready for the situation and that time was running out for a smooth transition. “This is like the internet running out of telephone numbers and with no new numbers, you can’t have more subscribers,” Times Online quoted him, as saying.

Cerf and his colleagues devised the internet system in 1977, and he set in place “internet protocol version four” (IPv4) which provided 4.2 billion addresses. Each IPv4 address is a series of 32 binary digits. However, with the boost in the number of internet-enabled devices, especially mobile phones, less than 14% of those addresses remain vacant.

According to current figures, the existing IPv4 address will run out in 2010 and possibly as early as next year. But, scientists have already kept aside a new system, called IPv6, which has been ready for implementation for more than a decade.

Under IPv6, each address has 128 bits and so provides 340 trillion, trillion, trillion different addresses — that is 340,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,00 0,000. And it is believed that this will meet humanity’s needs for decades to come. Both the protocol systems will run simultaneously and IPv4 addresses will still work as normal. But if the IPv6 is not widely adopted, then those using it may find themselves unable to connect across the whole internet.

The Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development has warned that shifting to the new addressing scheme was “critical for the future of the internet economy” and was likely to affect “all businesses that require IP addresses for their growth”.

Cerf said consumers needed to be aware of IPv6 and to start checking that the products they buy are IPv6 compatible. Most software companies and many hardware companies are already making their products IPv6 ready. It is thought that, properly handled, the effect of the introduction of IPv6 on consumers will be minimal, although eventually home routers may have to be upgraded or swapped so they can use the longer addresses.

In Asia, governments in China, Korea and Japan have led the roll out of the new protocol.

Source : ANI

Self Help Growth - Top 10 Reasons to Smile

Top 10 Reasons to Smile

1. Smiling Makes Us Attractive

We are drawn to people who smile. There is an attraction factor. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good. Frowns, scowls and grimaces all push people away -- but a smile draws them in.

2. Smiling Changes Our Mood

Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile.. There's a good chance you mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.

3. Smiling Is Contagious

When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them. Smile lots and you will draw people to you.

4. Smiling Relieves Stress

Stress can really show up in our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you'll be better able to take action.

5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System

Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. Prevent the flu and colds by smiling.

6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure

When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home. Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?

7. Smiling Releases Endorphins, Natural Pain Killers and Serotonin

Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.

8. Smiling Lifts the Face and Makes You Look Younger

The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don't go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day -- you'll look younger and feel better.

9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful

Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently.

10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive

Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It's hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that "Life is Good!" Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling.

Source : DSD Email Forward

5 Simple Steps to Improve Indoor Air Quality

1. Keep your floors fresh.
Suck it up. Using a vacuum cleaner that has strong suction, rotating brushes, and a HEPA filter ensures that dust and dirt won’t get blown back out in the exhaust. In high traffic areas, vacuum the same spot several times. Don't forget walls, carpet edges, and upholstered furniture, where dust accumulates. For best results, vacuum two or more times each week and wash out your filter regularly.
Mop it up. Mopping picks up the dust that vacuuming leaves behind. You can skip the soaps and cleaners and just use plain water to capture any lingering dust or allergens. New microfiber mops (and dust cloths) reportedly capture more dust and dirt than traditional fibers and don’t require any cleaning solutions whatsoever.
Keep it out. Put a large floor mat at every door. People track in all sorts of chemicals via the dirt on their shoes. A door mat reduces the amount of dirt, pesticides, and other pollutants from getting into your home. If the mat is big enough, even those who don't wipe their shoes will leave most pollutants on the mat -- not the floors in your home. Lead dust can raise the risk of exposure for young children -- a serious problem that can damage the brain, central nervous system, and kidneys. Pesticides are also linked with brain damage in young children. Kids are vulnerable to higher exposures because they tend to get dust on their fingers and then put their fingers in their mouths. To best protect your family, ask people to remove their shoes when entering your home. Keep house shoes, slippers, and socks near the door.

2. Keep a healthy level of humidity.

Dust mites and mold love moisture. Keeping humidity around 30%-50% helps keep them and other allergens under control. A dehumidifier (and air conditioner during summer months) helps reduce moisture in indoor air and effectively controls allergens. An air conditioner also reduces indoor pollen count -- another plus for allergy-sufferers.

More tips for dehumidifying your home:
Use an exhaust fan or crack open a window when cooking, running the dishwasher, or bathing.
Don't overwater houseplants.
Vent the clothes dryer to the outside.
Fix leaky plumbing to prevent moisture-loving mold.
Empty drip pans in your window air conditioner and dehumidifier.

3. Make your home a no-smoking zone.

Cigarette smoke contains more than 4,000 chemicals. Research shows that secondhand smoke increases a child's risk of developing ear and respiratory infections, asthma, cancer, and sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). For the smoker, this addiction causes cancer, breathing problems, heart attacks, and stroke.

4. Test for radon.

Whether you have a new or old home, you could have a radon problem. This colorless, odorless gas significantly raises the risk of lung cancer. Radon is the second leading cause of lung cancer in the U.S. today. If you smoke and your home has high radon levels, your risk of lung cancer is especially high. Radon is a radioactive gas. It comes from the natural decay of uranium found in nearly all soils. It typically moves up through the ground and into your home through cracks and holes in the foundation. Drafty homes, airtight homes, homes with or without a basement -- any home can potentially have a radon problem. Granite countertops have also been linked to radon.

5. Smell good naturally.

You may associate that lemony or piney scent with a clean kitchen or clean clothes. But synthetic fragrances in laundry products and air fresheners emit dozens of different chemicals into the air. Conventional laundry detergents, fabric softeners, dryer sheets, and air fresheners in solid, spray, and oil form may all emit such gasses.
Look for fragrance-free or naturally-scented laundry products.
Switch to mild cleaners that don't include artificial fragrances.
Stop using aerosol sprays -- deodorants, hair sprays, carpet cleaners, furniture polish, and air fresheners.
Let in fresh air. Open windows so toxic chemicals don't build up in your home. What if you or your child has pollen allergies? Then keep rooms ventilated with a filtered air- conditioning system.
Use sliced lemons and baking soda to get a clean scent in the kitchen.
Bring nature indoors. Any room is prettier with a fern, spider plant, or aloe vera. It’s also healthier. NASA research shows that indoor plants like these act as living air purifiers -- the foliage and roots work in tandem to absorb chemical pollutants released by synthetic materials. If you have kids or pets, make sure the plants aren’t poisonous if ingested.

Self Help : Mobile Battery Saving Tips

Mobile Battery Saving TIPS

If you're expecting a call and your battery icon starts blinking, the first thing you should do is find a charger. But if that's not an option, here are ten things you can do to hang on.

Close Background Applications :

If you're using a Smartphone, close applications that you don't need. Applications that stay active in the background use up a bit of CPU, which uses up battery. Make sure you 'exit' the applications from the menu, not by pressing the 'End' key, as that merely puts the application in the background. In Series 60 Smartphones (mostly Nokias), hold down the 'Menu' key to get a list of all applications running in the background to close them. In Windows Mobile 5 phones, open the 'Memory' application and check the 'Running programs' tab to close them.

Turn Down Screen Brightness :

The screen is one of the most power-consuming parts of the mobile phone. The lower the brightness, the lesser power it needs. Keep it as low as you can, so long as you can still see it! Also, some phones like the E61 and the BlackBerry Pearl come with auto-adjust features that increase the brightness in brightly lit areas and dim it in low-light areas. If you're setting the brightness low, make sure that auto-adjust is turned off.

Don't Use Animated Wallpapers or Screensavers :

The animations in wallpapers and screensavers can drain a bit of battery as they also consume a wee bit of CPU. Turn them off.

Turn Off Keypad Lights :

If you've been using the phone for a while, you may be able to use the keys without seeing them. If this is the case, the keypad backlight can be turned off. However, not a lot of phones support this, but it's worth considering if your phone does.

Decrease Screen Standby Time Out :

The time till your screen dims out and/or gets turned off is configurable in most phones. 10 seconds is good, 5 seconds is better. Set it as low as you can go without it becoming inconvenient.

Turn Off Vibration :

Probably the second most power-consuming feature of any mobile phone is the built-in vibration alert. See if you can do without it.

Turn Down Ringer Volume, Keypad Tones and Speaker During Calls :

If you're mostly indoors, like in the office or at home, a low ringer volume can go a bit towards saving your battery. Most phones also have DTMF-like keypad tones, which are not necessary if the keypad has decent tactile feedback. Keep them turned off most of the time. Volume of the earpiece when you're on a call can also be lowered, and that helps too.

Disable Voice Clarity / EFR / Voice Privacy :

Almost all phones now do Enhanced Full Rate (EFR) for voice communication that consumes a little more power. In most cases, the enhanced quality of EFR doesn't make a difference thanks to the high noise levels in our city. Keep it off, you probably won't miss it. Some phones (mostly Samsungs) have a 'voice privacy' feature which can also be turned off to save battery.

Turn off 3G / GPRS / EDGEMost 3G/UMTS/WCDM :

A phone keeps searching for 3G coverage by default. They'll keep searching till 2008, draining your battery, so go to the network selection screen and choose GSM-only. If your phone has a secondary camera near the screen, it's a 3G phone. Check your phone specs on the website if you aren't sure. Sometimes, even regular GPRS or EDGE connections stay active in the back, so make sure you specifically disconnect when you're done browsing the web.

Use Bluetooth and WiFi Only While Transferring :

If you only use Bluetooth occasionally to transfer files to and from other devices, there's probably no point keeping it on all the time. Most phones only come with an on/off setting for Bluetooth, unlike the 'Turn on for 10 minutes' setting available for Infrared in some phones (mostly Sony Ericssons). People tend to forget about Bluetooth being left on after transferring the file, avoid doing this. Same goes for WiFi, if you're phone has that.

Here's another tip : Find a USB cable if your phone supports recharging via USB. The Motorola RAZR/KRZR/SLVRs and most Windows Mobile Smartphones have a standard miniUSB slot that can use the same cable as most digital cameras. You're more likely to find one of these lying around somewhere than a charger for your phone, unless it's a Nokia, of course.

Finally, the last tip is not very recommendable, but it is something to consider if you've tried everything else above: don't use the phone too much. Of course, you can't use the camera and media features (most Samsung phones won't even let you, if the battery is low) but you can also be a bit choosy while answering incoming calls not all of them need to be answered. This is even more true in case of unknown numbers!

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Self Love Help - How To Tell She Likes You !

How To Tell She Likes You

She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.

Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.

Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way.

She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.

Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth....

She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

She puts her fingernail between her teeth.

She laughs in unison with you.

She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you.

Plays with her jewelery, especially with stroking and pulling motions.

She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.

Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile usually indicates interest in you.

While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.

In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.

Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.

She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.

She rubs her wrists up and down.


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