Friday, April 29, 2011


Remember that falling in love is not a one-way ticket to a life long band. Love is work in progress, you have to choose to love your spouse every single day, no matter what the situation is.

Most couples are unable to sort out their differences as they do not communicate. Talk yo your partner even if you know it will lead to an argument. Choose a private place and a time when you can discuess your issues without interruptions.

Stick to this rule. No matter what the fight is about, no name calling will be allowed. Also refrain from references to past history and cheap shots during the argument. Stick to the issue at hand.

Listen to your spouse attentively without interruption. Pay attention to the voice, the emotions behind the words and body language. Do not try to change those feelings or offer solutions, just hear them out.

This is a golden rule to live by. Don't ever go to bed angry at each other. Call a truce before bedtime. Most things look much better in the morning.

Take action. Do something every day that shows your spouse how much you love him/her. The gesture will definately be appreciated and reciprocated.

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Ways To Put A Smile On Someone’s Face - Part 2

5. Deliver a meal to someone you know that is sick or having a rough time. We have all been sick and know the last thing you want to do is be out of bed. There are also times when life is tough and it is hard to do all of the daily chores. You can be a tremendous help by providing a meal that can be enjoyed.

6. Volunteer time to supporting your local prayer hall or temple. Every minute you dedicate to charity or temple will cause many smiles. You will put a smile on the face of each leader just for helping without being asked. You will also be putting smiles on the faces of those that are being helped through the organization.

7. Thank everyone that supports you throughout the day. The list of those that you come in contact with is endless. Remember family and friends, secretaries, co-workers, teachers, Sunday school teachers, pastors, store employees, janitors, gas station attendants, those that deliver your mail and newspaper, and servers at restaurants


Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Ways To Put A Smile On Someone’s Face - Part 1

1. Write an encouraging note to others that have encouraged you or that need encouragement. Handwritten notes that are given to encourage, not just for thanking someone for a gift, are rare. That makes handwritten notes even more special. Start a new practice of sitting down and writing an encouraging note on a regular basis. You just might start an epidemic!

2. Take a friend out to lunch or invite her to your home for a meal. You will get to know each other even better than you do right now. If you feel like being more adventurous, throw a party for several of your friends and put smiles on a multitude of faces.

3. Give someone an inspirational book to read. You will feel good doing it, reading the book will change the person, and they will think of you every time they read it.

4. Ask a friend or relative if you can take care of their kid(s) for a day or evening. If you have been a parent, you know the value of being able to have a few hours of `adult time` without worrying about the children. Don't wait to be asked to baby-sit when it is required. Offer to do it at a time when the parent can do something fun and relaxing.

To Be Continued ....

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Time Management Methods for Daily Activities - Part 2

Organization For Better Time Management  ( Continued ... ) 

Listed below are some methods that you can apply into your schedule :

3. Have goals, specific ones : Whatever your goal is, it helps provide direction to whatever it is you need to do for a certain period of time. Hence, specify your goals according to activities you need to do for the day, week, or within the month.

4. Use organizational tools : By being disorganized, you could lose precious time attending to unimportant tasks instead of utilizing them for more important activities. Hence, keep your things organized and orderly for easy access when needed.

5. Do not procrastinate : Whatever you can do for today, do it now. Never put off something because you’ll never know when you’d have the time to work on them.

Evaluate Daily Activities

To setup an effective time management system, you need to look into every detail of your daily activities. Hence, you can identify which activities are important and which ones are not, as well as how much time is consumed.

Create a daily schedule that you need to follow strictly. Then, you can check that at each start of the day. When you have a schedule, you can divide up your activities evenly to avoid being overwhelmed with activities at a certain time of day.

Aside from organizing your activities within the day, you can use your daily schedule of activities for evaluation on your level of productivity. As you examine the activities, take note of each one and the time spent. Do these activities contribute to the accomplishment of your goals? Are you focusing your efforts and time on necessary things? If not, then you are not maximizing your time well.

These are just basic time management procedures you can follow so you can achieve more in less time.


Source : Tickled By Life by Guest Tickler

Monday, April 25, 2011

Time Management Methods for Daily Activities - Part 1

There are several concepts and approaches that aim to improve your time management skills. However, most of them seem to rest on unrealistic concepts that actually achieve nothing. Effective time management entails the maximum use of whatever time that is available each day to enable you to accomplish designated tasks.

Understanding the Concept of Time

It might be a cliché but time is indeed gold. Once it is lost, you can never regain it. Therefore, as much as possible, you want to make the most of your time by aiming towards increased productivity.

How many times have you experienced having to scramble with your tasks just to complete them in time? When you evaluate your activities, you’d realize that you spend one afternoon watching TV or playing video games. Then, the next day you are bombarded with tasks that you must finish. However, the limited time you have left just seems not enough.

Until that happens, you never really realize the full value of time. Hence, it is important that you look for ways to maximize your time to make room for all your work and recreational activities.

Organization For Better Time Management

One way to maximize your time is by learning how to organize your activities according to how much time you need to work on them. Listed below are some methods that you can apply into your schedule:

1. Make a To-do list : This is the basis of all time management systems. Whether it be an electronic device or the traditional post-it notes, this is where you refer on what activities you need to get done on a certain period of time.

2. Prioritizing your list : Aside from making a list, you also need to list them according to the most important or urgent tasks. Hence, you finish those that needs to get done first on time before moving on to the next task.

To Be Continued....

Source : Tickled By Life by Guest Tickler

Saturday, April 23, 2011

Effects of Smoking & Reasons to Quit - Part 4


  • Within 2 weeks to 3 months of quitting - your circulation improves and walking becomes easier; your lung function increases by up to 30%.
  • Within 1 to 9 months of quitting - your overall energy typically increases and symptoms like coughing, nasal congestion, fatigue, and shortness of breath improve. You will have fewer illnesses, colds, and asthma attacks. You will gradually no longer be short of breath with everyday activities.
  • Within 1 year of quitting - your risk of coronary heart disease is half that of someone still using tobacco.
  • Within 5 years of quitting - your lung cancer death rate decreases by nearly 50% compared to one pack per day smokers; your risk of cancer of the mouth is half that of a tobacco user.
  • Within 10 years of quitting - your lung cancer death rate becomes similar to that of someone who never smoked; precancerous cells are replaced with normal cells; your risk of stroke is lowered, possibly to that of a nonsmoker; your risk of cancer of the mouth, throat, esophagus, bladder, kidney, and pancreas all go down.
  • Like any addiction, quitting tobacco is difficult, especially if you are acting alone. There are a lot of ways to quit smoking and many resources to help you.
  • Family members, friends, and coworkers may be supportive or encouraging.
  • Talk to your doctor about nicotine replacement therapy and smoking cessation medications.
  • If you join smoking cessation programs, you have a much better chance of success. Such programs are offered by hospitals, health departments, community centers, and work sites.


Friday, April 22, 2011

Effects of Smoking & Reasons to Quit - Part 3


You will notice many benefits of quitting right away :

  • Your breath, clothes, and hair will smell better
  • Your sense of smell will return and food will taste better
  • Your fingers and fingernails will slowly appear less yellow
  • Your stained teeth will slowly become whiter
  • Your home, work, and social life will also improve immediately:
  • Your children will be less likely to start smoking themselves
  • It will be easier and cheaper to find an apartment
  • You will miss fewer work days, or you may have an easier time getting a job
  • The constant search for a place to smoke when you're out will be over
  • Friends will be more willing to be in your car or home
  • You will have more money available
  • Some health benefits begin almost immediately too, but every week, month, and year without tobacco use only improves your health.
  • Within 20 minutes of quitting - your blood pressure and pulse rate drop to normal and the temperature of your hands and feet increases to normal.
  • Within 8 hours of quitting - your blood carbon monoxide levels drop and your blood oxygen levels increase, both to normal levels.
  • Within 24 hours of quitting - your risk of a sudden heart attack decreases.
  • Within 48 hours of quitting - nerve endings begin to regenerate and your senses of smell and taste begin to return to normal.

To Be Continued....

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Effects of Smoking & Reasons to Quit - Part 2

Here are some effects of cigarette smoking to your health :


  • Most forms of cancer are particularly lung cancer, kidney cancer, cancer of the larynx, head and neck cancer, breast cancer, bladder, pancreas, esophagus, and stomach cancer.
  • Cancer is the second leading cause of death and was among the first diseases casually linked to smoking.
  • Smoking causes about 90% of lung cancer deaths in women and almost 80% of lung cancer deaths in men. 
  • The risk of dying from lung cancer is more than 23 times higher among men who smoke cigarettes, and about 13 times higher among women who smoke cigarettes compared with non smokers.
  • Rates of cancers related to cigarette smoking vary widely among members of racial/ethnic groups, but are generally highest in African-American men.

Cardiovascular disease

  • Cardiovascular disease involves the heart and blood vessels (arteries, veins).
  • Smoking causes coronary heart disease which is the leading cause of death in the United States.
  • It approximately doubles a person's risk for stroke.
  • Cigarette smoking causes reduced circulation by narrowing the blood vessels (arteries). Smokers are more than 10 times as likely as nonsmokers to develop peripheral vascular disease.
  • Cigarette smoking causes abdominal aortic aneurysm.

Respiratory disease and other effects

  • Cigarette smoking is associated with a 10 times increase in the risk of dying from chronic obstructive lung disease.
  • Cigarette smoking has many adverse reproductive and early childhood effects including an increased risk for infertility, preterm delivery, stillbirth, low birth weight, and sudden infant death syndrome.
  • Postmenopausal women who smoke have lower bone density than women who never smoked.

To Be Continued....

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Effects of Smoking & Reasons to Quit - Part 1


The act of inhaling and exhaling the fumes of burning tobacco in cigars, cigarettes or pipes is called cigarette smoking. Originally it was started by Native Americans and was practiced in rituals and for medicinal purposes. But slowly it spread to other parts of the World and by the end of 19th century the use was widespread all over the earth. There are various methods of smoking. They are cigarette, cigar, pipe, hookah or sheesha.
Today the habit is so rampant that many Governments have come down heavily on tobacco manufacturers and sellers in the form of heavy taxation for tobacco and tobacco products.

Effects of Smoking

Tobacco smoke contains a substance called nicotine, a poisonous alkoid. It also has substances such as carbon monoxide, acrolien, ammonia, prussic acid, aldehydes and tar. Tobacco contains about 4000 chemicals which when heated produce a lot of substances that cause irreparable damages to the health.

Natural Stop Smoking Aid

Cigarette smoking is very dangerous to everyone's health because it harms almost all organs in the body which causes many diseases and reduced health of smokers in general. According to the Surgeon General, smoking cigarettes is the leading preventable cause of death in the United States resulting in about 400,000 deaths each year. If you smoke, it means you are giving yourself a slow poison treatment. Cigarette smoking does not only affect the smoker's health but also affects the nearby standing individual like your kids as their organs are in the developing stage. Most of the diseases caused due to smoking are so severe that there are no treatments available for these diseases. Now is the time to think of ways you can effectively quit smoking immediately.

To Be Continued....

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Tips to Improve Interpersonal Skills ..... Part 2

6. Pay Close Attention to Your Body Language. This and the tone of your voice have a lot to do with how people feel about you. Think before you speak!

7. Make other’s Laugh. Most people are drawn to a person who can make them feel better.

8. Try to See Things from Another Person’s View. Empathy is about being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and understanding how they feel.

9. Keep an Open Mind. Remember there is always room for discussion and compromise.

10. Don’t Complain. There is nothing worse than a chronic whiner. Try to focus on helping other people solve their problems and it will be remembered. 


Source : M Junaid Tahir 

Monday, April 18, 2011

Tips to Improve Interpersonal Skills ..... Part 1

1. Practice Smiling Often. No one wants to be around someone who is always frowning. Maintain a positive, cheerful attitude about work and life.

2. Pay Attention to People. Make eye contact and address people by their first names. Ask them for their opinions and suggestions.

3. Be Generous with Praise and Words of Encouragement. If you let others know that they are appreciated, they will want to give you their best.

4. Keep Your Promises. If you promise something to someone, follow up on it.

5. Treat Everyone Fairly. Do not play favorites and avoid talking about others behind their backs.

To Be Continued...

Source : M Junaid Tahir 

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Handling Difficult Relationship With Boss - Part 2

Yesterday we learnt about what are the DON'T towards handling a difficult relationship with the Boss, today we take a look at the DO's....


Get perspective. Try to understand why they are behaving like they are, suggests Walker. "Have they just moved, or are they coping with the strain of a big new mortgage or are they worried about their position? If you can tell yourself their behaviour isn't your fault, it's a basic first step to getting control back. Reeves agrees: "If you can't resolve the problem, get out. Even in this economy, you don't need to work for a psychopath."

Try to talk directly to them. "Speak from your own perspective, using phrases like 'I feel', instead of accusatory 'you' expressions," says Reeves. Body language is important, says Walker. "Bad bosses find it harder to intimidate people who appear confident. Confidence is like a muscle, the more you exercise it the stronger it gets."

Document everything – you never know when it may come in handy.

Try to find an ally to confide in and guide you through. "It could be a supervisor or board member," says Reeves. "But you need to go higher up the food chain ; don't ask a colleague."


Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Handling Difficult Relationship With Boss - Part 1

For most people, the logical first step towards dealing with a work problem is to approach your manager. But what if your manager actually is the problem? A recent survey from the Chartered Management Institute (CMI) revealed that almost half of UK workers say they have left a job because of bad management.

"It's not surprising it is such an issue," says Ruth Spellman, the CMI's chief executive. "We invest less in our managers than our global competitors, and it shows. Most individuals never set out to manage people, and have not been trained to do so."

But walking out of a job is easier said than done, especially in the current economic climate. So what can you do to minimise the impact of a difficult relationship with your boss?


Lose your temper in front of your boss or colleagues. Jill Walker, author of Is Your Boss Mad? says: "A trick I once used, at the moment of extreme mad boss's madness, was to gently approach them and ask if I could get them a cup of tea – if you teach them how they should be behaving, it can be utterly disarming."

Let your work slide. Make sure things are getting done, even if your boss is a terrible manager. "Maintain a track record for efficiency and get others to pick up the slack if the boss is not doing their job," says Ellen Reeves, author of careers guide Can I Wear My Nose Ring to the Interview? But don't do things your boss tells you to do if you know they are unethical, illegal or unfair," warns Walker. "It's you that will end up in trouble – and it's you that will be unhappy,"

Suffer in silence. "As far as I know we only have one life, so don't waste yours being abused by a nasty, incompetent boss," says Reeves.

To Be Continued ....

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Quick Tips to Ease Computer Eye Strain

Quick Tips to Ease Computer Eye Strain

If you use a computer more than two hours a day, you could be suffering from Computer Vision Syndrome (CVS). A CBS News Medical Correspondent Dr Jennifer Ashton explained CVS is associated with symptoms that come with sitting in front of a computer, hand-held device, iPhone, iPod for hours every day.

"The most common symptoms are: eye strain, dry or irritated eyes, fatigue, and headaches," CBS News quoted Ashton as saying.

She provides some quick tips to keep eye strain at bay:

1. Blink often : When looking at a computer or hand-held digital device, it''s common for you to blink two to three times less than you normally would. This can lead to "dry eye." Blinking bathes your eyes in tears, and tears are naturally therapeutic for the eyes.

2. The 20/20/20 rule : When spending long periods in front of a digital device, every 20 minutes, spend 20 seconds looking at something 20 feet away to allow your eyes to rest.

3. Ensure proper lighting : To help ease the strain on your eyes, keep bright lighting overhead to a minimum and position your desk lamp to shine on your desk, and not at you. Position your computer screen in a way that reduces reflections and glare from windows or overhead lights.

4. Location of computer screen : Optimally, the computer screen should be 15 to 20 degrees below eye level (about 4 or 5 inches) as measured from the centre of the screen and 20 to 28 inches from the eyes.

Monday, April 11, 2011

Top 5 Skills an Effective Manager Should Have...

It is not foolish to say that a manager is one who didn’t work at all. Yes true actually we take the wrong term for manager. We take manager as superman who can do everything. One thing that I might say about managers is that he is the one who can manage everything. So he needs some skills to do it all. Here are the five skills that I think a manager must have.

Communication :

Manager must have good communication skill, no doubt about it. I personally believe that there are many types of communications. Like public speaking your projects must speak to owner/CEO. It is more important than making a speech to thousand people.

Training :

Training is as essential as anything else. It is the only way to refine the skills & tricks that one has. It tells how to handle an uncertain situation. I mean to refer lot of personal training that held in city for personal growth etc.

Punctual :

Mostly people think that it is very hard to manage the time while working on different project but I simply suggest that if one is punctual then he will be good with time management. Yes punctuality is the key to success. This skill can be developed by being conscious about it.

Flexible but rigid too :

How to flexible if people are against you? Tough to answer but we don’t have to do it, just manage it. Be flexible to you team and little bit kind to them. This will create a gentle return to you that you can’t expect from you team. Also with flexibility be rigid to the rules & regulations of organization for others & yourself too.

Technology :

I heard mostly from managers that they don’t know typing or they hate computers. I ask if they will hate such things then how they can use it. Manager should be good with latest technologies. If it is not possible then at least be good at Microsoft office & typing.

Source : Junaid Tahir 

Friday, April 8, 2011

Important Career Planning Tips - Part 2

6. Identify Your Next Job

Your dream job must be identified. Before you start planning your future career, be sure you have identified your dream job. In your dream job, you will be doing all the things you enjoy, and none of the things you don't enjoy. What kind of job would that be? Do you like or dislike having responsibility for other employees. Do you like to work with technology or with people? Do you want to run your own business? Do you want to be an artist, a designer or a skilled engineer? A manager? Before building your future career your goal must be identified. 

7. Prepare Yourself

Your dream might show up tomorrow. Be prepared. Don't wait a second. Update your CV now, and continue to update it regularly. Tomorrow your dream job may show up right before your nose. Prepare for it with a professional CV and be ready to describe yourself as a valuable object to anyone that will try to recruit you. If you don't know how to write a CV, or how to describe yourself, start learning it now.

8. Pick The Right Tools

Pick the tools you can handle. You can build your future career using a lot of different tools. You can add a lot to your career by studying books and tutorials. Doing short time courses with certification tests might add valuable weight to your CV. And don't  forget: Your current job is often the most valuable source of building new skills. Don't pick a tool that is too heavy for you to handle! 

9. Realize Your Dreams

Put your dreams into action. Don't let a busy job kill your dreams. If you have higher goals, put them into action now. If you have plans about taking more education, getting a better job, starting your own company or something else, you should not use your daily job as a "waiting station". Your daily job will get more and more busy, you will be caught up in the rat race, and you will burn up your energy. If you have this energy, you should use it now, to realize your dreams.

Source : http://www.w3school career_tips. asp

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Important Career Planning Tips - Part 1

The 9 most important career planning tips is listed below:

1. Never Stop Learning
Life-long learning is your keyword. The world is constantly changing, and everybody is looking for new ways of doing business. If you have decided that your current skills are good enough, you have also decided that your current job is good enough.  But if you want a career in the future, you should add regular updates to your skills and knowledge.

2. Ask, Listen And Learn
A good listener can learn a lot. Listen to your co-workers, your boss, and your superiors. You can learn a lot from their experience.  Ask about issues that interest you, and listen to what they say. Let them tell you about how things work, and what you could have done better. Most people will love to be your free tutor.

3. Fulfill Your Current Job
Your current job might be best place to start your career. It is often very little that separates successful people from the average. But nothing comes free. If you do your job well and fulfill your responsibilities, this is often the best way to start a new career. Talk to your supervisor about things you can do. Suggest improvements. Offer your help when help is needed. In return ask for help to build a better career. It is often possible - right inside your own organization - especially if you have proved to be a valued employee.

4. Build Your Network
Your next career step might arise from your contact network. Did you know that more than 50% of all jobs are obtained from contact networks? If you have a good contact network, it is also a good place to discover future careers, to explore new trends, and to learn about new opportunities. Spend some time building new contacts, and don't forget to maintain the ones you already have. One of the best ways to get serious information from your network is to regularly ask your contacts how they are, what they do, and what is new about their careers.

5. Identify Your Current Job
Your current job should be identified, not assumed.  Make sure you don't work with tasks you assume are important. This is waste of time and talent. When you start in a new job, talk to your superior about your priorities. If you are not sure about what is most important, then ask him. And ask him again. Often you will be surprised about the differences between what you assume, and what is really important.

To Be Continued ....

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Tips to Boost Your Interview IQ - Part 2

Ten Tips to Boost Your Interview IQ

Don't Be Too Familiar 

The interview is a professional meeting to talk business. This is not about making a new friend. Your level of familiarity should mimic the interviewer's demeanor. It is important to bring energy and enthusiasm to the interview and to ask questions, but do not overstep your place as a candidate looking for a job. 

Use Appropriate Language 

It's a given that you should use professional language during the interview. Be aware of any inappropriate slang words or references to age, race, religion, politics or sexual orientation -- these topics could send you out the door very quickly. 

Don't Be Cocky 

Attitude plays a key role in your interview success. There is a fine balance between confidence, professionalism and modesty. Even if you're putting on a performance to demonstrate your ability, overconfidence is as bad, if not worse, as being too reserved. 

Take Care to Answer the Questions 

When an interviewer asks for an example of a time when you did something, he is seeking a sample of your past behavior. If you fail to relate a specific example, you not only don't answer the question, but you also miss an opportunity to prove your ability and talk about your skills. 

Ask Questions 

When asked if they have any questions, most candidates answer, "No." Wrong answer. It is extremely important to ask questions to demonstrate an interest in what goes on in the company. Asking questions also gives you the opportunity to find out if this is the right place for you. The best questions come from listening to what is asked during the interview and asking for additional information. 

Don't Appear Desperate 

When you interview with the "please, please hire me" approach, you appear desperate and less confident. Maintain the three C's during the interview: cool, calm and confident. You know you can do the job; make sure the interviewer believes you can, too. 


Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Tips to Boost Your Interview IQ - Part 1

Ten Tips to Boost Your Interview IQ

Even the smartest and most qualified job seekers need to prepare for job interviews. Why, you ask? Interviewing is a learned skill, and there are no second chances to make a great first impression. So study these 10 strategies and caveats to enhance your interview IQ. 

Practice Good Nonverbal Communication 

It's about demonstrating confidence: standing straight, making eye contact and connecting with a good, firm handshake. That first impression can be a great beginning -- or quick ending -- to your interview. 

Dress for the Job or Company   

Today's casual dress codes do not give you permission to dress as "they" do when you interview. It is important to look professional and well-groomed. Whether you wear a suit or something less formal depends on the company culture and the position you are seeking. If possible, call to find out about the company dress code before the interview. 


From the very beginning of the interview, your interviewer is giving you information, either directly or indirectly. If you are not hearing it, you are missing a major opportunity. Good communication skills include listening and letting the person know you heard what he said. Observe your interviewer, and match that style and pace. 

Don't Talk Too Much 

Telling the interviewer more than he needs to know could be a fatal mistake. When you have not prepared ahead of time, you may tend to ramble, sometimes talking yourself right out of the job. Prepare for the interview by reading through the job posting, matching your skills with the position's requirements and relating only that information. 

To Be Continued....

Friday, April 1, 2011

Teaching Your Child To Lose - Part 2

Allowing your child to cry, get angry and express their feelings over the loss is extremely important. Some parents tell children to not cry and that crying is for sissies - and losers don’t’ cry. Being able to have an emotional release and teaching your child appropriate emotional responses is important.

Not immediately after a loss, but at some point, have a time of "looking back." Talk with your child and see if they think there is anything they could have done differently. Remind them "it’s not how you win or lose, but how you play the game." Encourage your child to think and talk about what they have learned from their experience.

Always leave the door open for your child to talk with you about the particular area in which they are competing. It may be that continued losses are indications that your child is not ready for the activity, is bored, is not doing it for their own personal enjoyment or satisfaction, or that the training is inadequate.

Continue to encourage. Point out the things you observed that were good. While your child may have not done his/her best, there are things that they did well. Children need to hear what they did well - especially in light of a defeat.

It’s challenging to see someone struggle. It’s very difficult to watch someone lose-especially when they try so hard to be successful. The old adage, "if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again" can be frustrating to hear. However, as it is with anything in life, there are lessons that can be learned from losing. Children, especially, need to be reminded that in all things there is always hope.


Source : Buzzle