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Thursday, April 14, 2011

Handling Difficult Relationship With Boss - Part 2




Yesterday we learnt about what are the DON'T towards handling a difficult relationship with the Boss, today we take a look at the DO's....


DO's

Get perspective. Try to understand why they are behaving like they are, suggests Walker. "Have they just moved, or are they coping with the strain of a big new mortgage or are they worried about their position? If you can tell yourself their behaviour isn't your fault, it's a basic first step to getting control back. Reeves agrees: "If you can't resolve the problem, get out. Even in this economy, you don't need to work for a psychopath."

Try to talk directly to them. "Speak from your own perspective, using phrases like 'I feel', instead of accusatory 'you' expressions," says Reeves. Body language is important, says Walker. "Bad bosses find it harder to intimidate people who appear confident. Confidence is like a muscle, the more you exercise it the stronger it gets."

Document everything – you never know when it may come in handy.

Try to find an ally to confide in and guide you through. "It could be a supervisor or board member," says Reeves. "But you need to go higher up the food chain ; don't ask a colleague."


Concluded