SORRY, IT’S OVER! ..How to break away from an affair
When you have got to walk out, you’ve got to walk out. But while doing it, don’t be an emotional infant
Of the 50 ways to leave your lover, SMSing, ‘Make a new plan,’ is not the most sensitive. Breaking up (or declining a prospect gracefully) is never easy, but with careful planning and a bit of sensitivity, you can lessen the trauma of heartbreak.
PREPARE THE GROUND
If the case is such that one person has moved on in the relationship and the other is still emotionally attached, start by preparing the ground. Give the person a heads-up by saying you want to discuss something serious and invite them to a dinner. The plan should be immediate, to erode any possibility of suspense on the part of the partner. Make sure the venue is some place you can spend time at. You can’t expect to talk about what is wrong with the relationship that you are ending by the time a burger and coffee arrive at a fast-food joint.
TAKE A FRIEND
Get an objective third party involved. Take the permission of your partner to bring along a neutral friend or family member. If he or she objects, you can also suggest they invite a friend or relative from their side so that they don’t feel cornered. The presence of such a person will keep the discussion on track and stop it from escalating into a blame-game or reaching an emotional crescendo. And if emotions do run high, it is the duty of the third party to ask the partner, who is breaking up, to leave the venue and sit with the other one. They should listen to them vent their anger and re-emphasize that the problem does not lie with them personally.
To Be Continued .....
