Should i or Shouldn't I .. ??
With your trust broken, giving a second chance to a cheating partner might be difficult. Here's how to go about it :
At times, it is natural to be attracted to someone else and cheat on your partner. Though cheating is not acceptable, you may want to give your partner a chance if it's happened for the first time. It is natural to be hurt if you are at the receiving end of infidelity. but if you are willing to pardon the grievous fault of your partner and give him a second chance, here are some things you should keep in mind so you don;t scar your relationship again.
SORT YOUR MIND
Before starting the second phase of that once-broken relationship, calculate the reasons why you are willing to take the risk. Clinical psychologist Mansi Hassan says, "Be clear as to why you want this relationship all that much. Keep in mind, if it's just because you feel you can't get anyone better than your partner. Because that's no reason to give someone a second chance. Does your partner who has cheated on you also want to make an effort for the same? Only after sorting out these confusions, can you really assess if it's worth it."
ASSESS OBJECTIVELY
It's important you have a reality check before deciding to give him another chance. Clinical psychologist and psychotherapist Anjali Chhabria says, "Be objective and assess if the cheating was 'accidental' or if it;s a personality flaw of your partner. You need a sufficient span of time because if someone has cheated regularly, he might do it all over again. Evaluate before you decide.
DON'T DOUBT YOUR DECISION OR PARTNER
Once you are determined to work it out with your partner, have patience. Chhabria says you should work on strengthning the flaws of your relationship. Hassan adds that you should be vigilant and not suspect him or be hawk-eyed just because of your insecurity.
Source : TOI
