7 Reasons To say Good Morning To Your Co-Workers - Part 1

Joe and Stacy work next to each other. They sit no more than five feet apart. Even though they often arrive at work before the rest of the team, there is no communication between them. 

• Only silence.
• No morning greeting. 
• No acknowledgment that they are sharing the same office oxygen.

Saying 'Good Morning' should not be difficult. Yet, there is an increasing trend, almost a rebellion, against saying these two simple words to our co-workers. It is not as we were required to salute, bow, kneel or courtesy. Even a casual nod and mumble would be a lot better than the nothing that is now occurring at far too many work sites.

Do not become part of this alarming trend. Experience the power of 'Good Morning.'

1. It maintains the standards of basic civility that we are all entitled to at work. Like 'Please' and 'Thank You', these two little words also go a long way towards improving communication and the overall atmosphere.

2. 'Good Morning' humanizes our co-workers. We are real people, not just cogs in a pointlessly spinning wheel. Show some humanity.

3. Provides for a more democratic environment, where everyone from the CEO to the mail clerk get to share in a friendly two-second exchange.

4. It is quick (and relatively painless). If it is painful, you should probably be looking for a new job or scheduling time for some serious self-reflection.

To Be Continued....

10 Money Minders for a Holiday ! - Part 2

5. Ask your banker ... all about cash advance, ATM, foreign purchase and foreign exchange rate policies and fees.

6. Find out .... the number you can reach your bank or credit card company on while you are abroad. The 800 number listed on the back of your card may not work from foreign location.

7. Check for currency conversion rates ... of your credit card companies. In that case you can find the most economical card on which to place your foreign purchases.

8. Using the ATM card ... is also a good idea. The ATM will issue money in local currency. but better check: come banks charge a high usage fee for their ATMs. Although even high ATM fees may be less than others will charge for currency exchanges.

9. Exchange your currency at ... the bank;s wholesale exchange rate. yes; there;s something like that!

10. Best currency conversion option is ... to carry dollars. It's easier to exchange.

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10 Money Minders for a Holiday ! - Part 1

Its Holiday Time, but being strapped for cash is a traveller's worst nightmare. Read on how to keep it bay!

A holiday is an escape to somewhere your worried can't reach you. Yes, that's the word - worry. Fair enough! But what if you land yourself in one while travelling? What if your credit card isn't accepted and you aren't getting a decent exchange rate for your native currency? Now that we have you worried before you have face it, we have also got you a check list :

1. Take along your major credit cards....

Make sure they are really credit cards and not just debit cards with a credit card company logo on them. many locations require a credit card and will not accept a debit card, as they may have limited use on your travel.

2. Notify your credit card company ....  of your trip before you leave. The unfamiliar spending patterns might cause them to suspect that the card is being sued fraudulently and delay your approvals. Further they will explain many of the services that they can provide while you are on your trip.

3. Inform your bank ... of your trip too, so that arrangements can be made to pay bills that will come due while you are gone.

4. Confirm your credit card company .... if your PIN number will work in the countries you are visiting. They can also issue you another PIN number, if your current PIN is unacceptable in the foreign bank system.

To Be Continued.....  

How to battle loneliness after a breakup !

1. Don’t indulge in self-pity – that’s most important. Make a conscious effort to appear confident and keep smiling. Get down to watching your favourite programmes on TV. Spend some time re-connecting with yourself and regaining parts of yourself that you may have lost or been neglecting lately. 

2. Visit friends and family – they can be a great comfort after a breakup. Catch up with them and allow them to take care of you and keep you company when you’re feeling down. 

3. Take a break and get out of town for a few days- A new environment will allow you to meet new people whom you might make friends with. 

4. Pick up a new hobby- Now could be a good time to do something you’ve always thought of doing. Take dance lessons. Start a blog... Before you know it, you’ll forget all about that old what’s his (or her) name. 

How to break away from an Affair ...! - Part 2

DON’T DISCUSS MUCH 

In a scenario where both people realise that the relationship is heading nowhere, a break-up will come as a relief. But in a case that is otherwise, it is the duty of the one moving on to accept blame. Keep talking about how the relationship has no future or how it has lost its charm without blaming the person or accusing him/her. 

KEEP REPEATING IT 

The other person is likely to talk about how ‘we had a good time the other day’ etc. Agree with her/him, but talk about how the good times are few and farther away in frequency. Keep the focus on ‘now’ and ‘I’. How ‘you’ feel differently ‘now’ or how ‘your’ needs have changed. 

Any other discussion will lead to counter accusations and escalate into anger. In case it does, having a neutral party helps as they will bring the conversation back on track. It is important that you don’t dent the self-esteem of the other person by picking personality flaws. In the same vein, don’t blame parents or interfering friends. 

And above all, don’t get angry. It is expected that the person still emotionally involved will be hurt and resort to anger and emotional blackmail. But the other should stand firm in the decision. Don't waver and go back again and again as this will unnecessarily prolong the end and make the other person feel like he/she is being used. Every time your partner wants to talk about why you’re breaking up, repeat your stand even at the risk of being crude. 

Hopefully by the next morning, your partner will begin to see the light. 

BREAK IT GENTLY 

If the girlfriend/boyfriend is excessively emotionally dependent on you, you can cut off ties gradually. While informing them that the relationship is over, reinforce that you will always be friends and that you can be depended upon in the time of need. 

In extreme cases, you may need to put space in between you. Saying that you need your space before announcing the break-up will also help prepare ground. But remember to actually reduce your interactions if you want to send out the right signals. 

After the break up, call up once in a while to check how they are doing. But make the agreement contractual. In case you can’t speak when they call, promise to call back at a more convenient hour and keep your word. Make the calls less frequent as time goes by. 

Avoiding calls or making excuses will again open the door for accusations and fights. 

WHEN SMS-ING IS NECESSARY 

The method of SMS can be used when all other lines of communication broke down. Her ex avoided her calls and postponed all plans of conversation, she finally sent him an SMS saying it was over. 

EXPERTSPEAK 

• Sometimes, a person has moved on but is afraid of telling the partner and taking responsibility for his/her actions or of the emotional consequences.The person may then act in an offensive manner to drive the partner to take the final step and absolve him/herself of blame. 

• Sometimes it is necessary to end a relationship abruptly and impersonally. Especially if the other person is clingy and talking has not lead to anything but emotional outbursts. 

Source : TNN 

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How to break away from an Affair ...! - Part 1

SORRY, IT’S OVER! ..How to break away from an affair

When you have got to walk out, you’ve got to walk out. But while doing it, don’t be an emotional infant

Of the 50 ways to leave your lover, SMSing, ‘Make a new plan,’ is not the most sensitive. Breaking up (or declining a prospect gracefully) is never easy, but with careful planning and a bit of sensitivity, you can lessen the trauma of heartbreak. 

PREPARE THE GROUND 

If the case is such that one person has moved on in the relationship and the other is still emotionally attached, start by preparing the ground. Give the person a heads-up by saying you want to discuss something serious and invite them to a dinner. The plan should be immediate, to erode any possibility of suspense on the part of the partner. Make sure the venue is some place you can spend time at. You can’t expect to talk about what is wrong with the relationship that you are ending by the time a burger and coffee arrive at a fast-food joint. 

TAKE A FRIEND 

Get an objective third party involved. Take the permission of your partner to bring along a neutral friend or family member. If he or she objects, you can also suggest they invite a friend or relative from their side so that they don’t feel cornered. The presence of such a person will keep the discussion on track and stop it from escalating into a blame-game or reaching an emotional crescendo. And if emotions do run high, it is the duty of the third party to ask the partner, who is breaking up, to leave the venue and sit with the other one. They should listen to them vent their anger and re-emphasize that the problem does not lie with them personally.

To Be Continued .....

Communicating With Kids !

Understanding your children's needs is an important step in understanding how you need to communicate with them.

As your kids grow, the way he/she communicates with you changes. Here are a few challenges a parent faces while trying to communicate with his/her child and how the parent can rectify these communication problem :

6-12 age group 

In this age group, kids are aware yet very curious and inquisitive. They have complete faith and trust in what their parents say and do not challenge what is spoken. A parent of 13-year-old says, "Being a parent of a kid belonging to 6 to 12 years of age is most challenging as during this time the child is still forming opinions and trusts you for everything. A child does not understand etiquette and concepts like how we need to react to different situations differently. At this stage, they also begin questioning subjects difficult to understand like God."

A psychiatrist doctor says, "In this age group, kids are forming good and bad behavioral traits through reinforcement and reactions they get from adults, particularly parents."

13-18 age group 

In this age group, the child starts facing typical teenage problems. Sometimes he / she is childlike and sometimes expects to be treated as an adult. So the child is little confused during this stage. Also, attraction to opposite sex begins to occur during this age. So parents should be available as a support system. 

The doctor says, "Kids also face a lot of exam and career related stress. Kids during this time are sexually mature but emotionally aren't. Though the child is more or less disciplined during these ages, the fact that they are slightly more depression-prone makes it a difficult age to handle. Also kids might take to smoking, excessive Internet or porn watching at these ages, so parents need to handle that."

Source : Times Wellness