Middle-aged Love
Love gets me every time my heart changed my mind - Shania Twain, singer
Desire to Love :
Even Google does not have a clear description of love for a middle-aged person! You are supposed to be looking after your babies and making a success of your career or having great sex outside marraige? This is the most vulnerable group; 'settled' couples feel 'unsettled', and divorce isn't uncommon, as most feel there's still time to find love. Expert Rohit Juneja says "These are people living lives in quiet desperation. They want to break free. So they start by having affairs. Monogamy is the monopoly of one individual, which leads to monotony. One lady author met a man when she was 47. "Love happened to me. We share everything and have a deep sense of bonding!'. A doctor says, "You cannot imagine how unhappy mid-lifers are with their marraiges. When they meet attractive people, the chemistry is lethal. There's a craving for deep emotional intimacy in this group." So what do men and women look for in love at this age? Says Anu, 52, accessory exporter, "I'm looking for love that is serene not heady and hip-hop." A VP of a travel agency believes "Being in loves makes you vivacious. For men, its to be with someone who is emotionallly and sexually attractive.
Maintenance of Love :
Growing up doesn;t cool off desire, rather, it fires up. "Love is about intimacy, appreciation and communciation. Remove your conflicts." advises Dr.Juneja. A recently married lecturer at 42 feels, "Keeping love alive is about indulging in small romantic gestures, giving compliments and showing gratitude.
To Be Continued......
Source : Times News Network.
