Confessing A Extra-Marital Affair - Part 2

Things to know before you confess to an extra-marital affair to your partner

6. The motive of the confession should be a genuine desire to improve or, if necessary, gently terminate your relationship. Don't confess to ease your own guilt, vent anger or get even.

7. Infidelity is often a symptom, not a cause, of trouble in a relationship, and admitting to it may force you to address the underlying issues.

8. Frank Pittman, a psychiatrist and relationship expert, says there are four types of infidelity - accidental infidelity (an unintended act of, usually drunken, carelessness); the romantic affair (you meet somebody wonderful while you are going through a big crisis in your life); the marital arrangement (comfort while you avoid dealing with a marriage that won't die and won't recover); and the philanderer (men who continually need their masculinity affirmed, women who are the daughters or ex-wives of philanderers).

9. According to the UK management consultants Grant Thornton, extra-marital affairs remain the biggest cause for divorce.

10. Only 3 per cent of 4,100 high-powered, but unfaithful, men divorced their wives and married their lovers. And the divorce rate among those who marry their lovers is 75 per cent.

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Confessing A Extra-Marital Affair - Part 1

Things to know before you confess to an extra-marital affair to your partner 

If you had an extra-martial affair and are planning to confess the blunder, then here are few things you should know.

1. Infidelity is not as common as one might think, for a online survey of 46,000 people revealed that one in five married men and one in ten married women had committed infidelity during their marriage. 

2. In case there is no chance that your partner will find out about a one-off misdemeanour on a business trip, and you want your relationship to survive, honesty is not necessarily the best policy. 

3. If you are crippled with guilt or you some need advice, talk to a neutral third party. 

4. If there is chance that someone else will tell your partner, come clean. 

5. If you have had unprotected sex, get tested for STIs and you may need to tell your partner the truth so that he or she can get tested too. 

To Be Continued...

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Self Help Mantra - Tips To Lose Weight - Part 3

Tips for Lose Weight

15. Don't beat yourself up or lose heart just because you've slipped up a few times. You need 

to keep a positive outlook and keep encouraging yourself.

16. Visualise how you will look without those extra kilograms.

17. Take up yoga.

18. Find new and different ways to measure how far you've come. Don't just stick to the weighing scale. Scout around in your cupboard and try on old clothes that are big for you're excellent motivation.

19. Find a partner to work out with or to support you. Enlist the help of a friend and go for activities that don't involve snacking. Take up tennis, go cycling don't just meet friends over lunch or dinner.

20. Get motivated. No one is going to lose your weight for you. You're going to have to do it 

all by yourself, and if the motivation doesn't come from within you, no amount of friends and 

family pushing you to lose weight is going to help.information if available.

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Self Help Mantra - Tips To Lose Weight - Part 2

Tips for Lose Weight

7. When you decide to finally attack your weight problem, you want it gone by the weekend. But realise that that is just not a realistic approach. If you want it off permanently, you've got 

to take it slow. It may even take up to a year to get to your desired weight - that's fine, because you've got more of a chance of maintaining it.

8. Join an aerobics class. It's more disciplined and it's always better to work out in a group.

9. Stay busy. Don't just sit around wasting time. Chances are your mind will wander to that delicious chocolate cake Partake in activities that are not conducive to eating. Join a singing class, take up oil painting or gardening - cultivate a hobby.

10. If you have to snack, try this. Put your hand in the packet of wafers and take out a fistful. Finish off whatever you get your hands on - and that's it.

11. Don't stack up on fattening yummy foods. Its easiest to control food intake if you just don't have it around. If you feel like chocolate cake, buy a pastry so it doesn't hang out in the refrigerator all week till you polish it off. Similarly, don't keep tubs of ice cream in the freezer. Buy a cup or two and eat it when the mood strikes.

12. When you reach for the refrigerator, stop and question yourself. Are you just bored or are 

you really hungry? In most of the cases the answer will be the former.

13. Stick little post-it notes on the refrigerator saying, Stop! Or Reach for a glass of water.

14. Buy clothes a size smaller and work towards fitting into them.

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Self Help Mantra - Tips To Loose Weight - Part 1

Tips for Lose Weight

1. Have you tried to give up sugar and havent succeeded? Instead of forbidding yourself certain foods - just eat less of them. If you must have sugar in your tea, cut it down from two spoons to one.

2. Ever notice how if you eat when you're ravenous, you tend to overeat? So try eating more regularly, even if it means more frequently. Eat an average of 5 small meals a day, instead of 2 or 3 large ones, where you stuff yourself.

3. Be conscious about what you eat. Keep a food diary and note down everything you eat. You may be shocked at the results.

4. Eat or snack only on the dinner table, not on the couch in front of your television. Once you make a policy out of this, you'll cut down on snacks tremendously. Don't get too comfortable while eating. Its always better to eat on the go. Always sit straight on the chair.

5. Make rules for yourself. If you experience cravings, give yourself ten minutes before you attack the refrigerator. In most cases, the craving would just die down and you'd walk away.

6. Drink a lot of water. This reduces hunger pangs and gives you more energy.

7. When you decide to finally attack your weight problem, you want it gone by the weekend. But realise that that is just not a realistic approach. If you want it off permanently, you've got 

to take it slow. It may even take up to a year to get to your desired weight - that's fine, because you've got more of a chance of maintaining it.

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7 ways to organize your email - Part 2

3. Create Search Folders to find messages fast

Search Folders are a quick and convenient way to look at predefined collections of email messages. They don't actually store any messages themselves, but instead are virtual folders that offer a view of all the messages stored in your mailbox depending on the attributes you've defined. Outlook provides default Search folders—such as Unread Mail—but you can also create your own. For instance, you can use Search Folders to help you find all the information related to a particular project, an important client, or an upcoming conference.

Create a Search Folder in Outlook 2010 :

In Mail, in the Folder tab, in the New group, click New Search Folder.

Create a Search Folders in either Outlook 2003 or Outlook 2007.

In Mail, on the File menu, point to New, and then click Search Folder.

In all versions of Outlook, specify whether you want to use a predefined Search Folder or create your own custom folder, and then follow the instructions on the screen.

4. Route mail efficiently using mailbox rules

By creating rules for Outlook, you can automatically perform actions on both incoming and outgoing messages based on the criteria you establish. For instance, you can automatically forward to your manager all messages sent by a certain person as soon as they arrive, assign the category Sales to all messages you send that have the word "sales" in the Subject line, and 

much, much more. Routing mail efficiently not only organizes your mail for you—but also frees up your time from performing routing tasks.

5. Reduce unwanted email with junk filters

Keep distracting and unwanted messages out of your inbox by using Outlook Junk Email filters. These filters send email flagged as junk to a separate mail folder under your Mailbox. You can review the contents of this folder to ensure that no legitimate messages have been sent there, and if they have, you can adjust the filter to avoid flagging such messages in the future.

6. Assign a color category

Assign a color category to a group of interrelated email messages, as well as to other items in Outlook such as notes, contacts, and appointments, so that you can easily identify and organize them. For example, keep track of all the messages, meetings, and contacts for the Morris project by creating a category named Morris Project and assigning items to it.

7. Flag for follow up

You can use the Flag for Follow-Up feature to flag email messages, tasks, and more to help classify them or mark them for action. Flags can remind you to follow up on an issue, indicate a request for someone else, or set a reminder for a message or contact. Best yet, they make organizing your mail folders a breeze, because you know exactly what to do—and when to do it. 

Note that when you create a task and set a due date, the task is automatically flagged, so that 

you don’t let that due date slip past you.

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7 ways to organize your email - Part 1

With meetings and the general chaos of a normal work day, your email Inbox can quickly get cluttered. An unorganized mailbox can make it difficult to find the email you need and know where to get started. This messy situation can be remedied. Microsoft Outlook offers great tools that help you organize your messages in meaningful, easy-to-control ways. Whether you're using Outlook 2010, Outlook 2007 or still using Outlook 2003, you'll be able to stay on top of your mail.

Not using Outlook at all? Perhaps you're using Outlook Express, or you’re using Windows Live Mail or Windows Live Hotmail. These programs offer some features similar to those described here for Outlook, but they don’t offer the same breadth of tools for email management. Use the Microsoft Outlook Connector to add your Hotmail account to Outlook, and then you can use these tips to organize your Hotmail also. Or read about the Hotmail features that can help you organize information in your Hotmail system. For instance, you can combine mail from your other email accounts, like Gmail and Yahoo! Mail, so that you can receive, read, and respond to all your email in one place.

You can use one or more of the tools covered in this article to help shrink your Inbox and make it easier to find the information you need.

1. Sort messages quickly

Outlook 2010 has a great new feature for organizing messages by date and arranging them by  Conversation. Using this feature, messages that share the same subject appear as Conversations that can be viewed expanded or collapsed by clicking the icon to the left of the Subject line. 

The messages within each Conversation are sorted with the newest message on top. When a new message is received, the entire Conversation moves to the top of your message list, making tracking email threads a snap.

To turn on Conversations, on the View tab, in the Conversations group, select the Show as Conversations check box. You can reduce the size of a conversation with Clean Up, which deletes duplicate messages in the conversation. On the Home tab, in the Delete group, click Clean Up, and then click Clean Up Conversation.

In all versions of Outlook, you can find messages in mailbox folders more quickly by changing how they're sorted in your email folders. For example, you can arrange your email by date, sender, file size, or level of importance.

2. Group similar messages in folders

By creating new mail folders you can group messages related to each other. For example, you can group messages by topic, project, contact, or other categories that make sense to you. You can even create a folder for all the messages from your manager or that include tasks that you have to complete.

To create a new folder in Outlook 2010, on the Folder tab, in the New group, click New Folder. To create a new folder in Outlook 2007 and Outlook 2003, on the File menu, point to New and then click Folder.

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Self Help Mantra - Honeymoon Tips !!

HONEYMOON TIPS

1. Knowledge is power. Do some research on the places you plan to visit so you will know what to expect.  This will help eliminate the anxiety of "what-if" running through your head.

2. Rest up before you go -- you'll enjoy your trip more and worry less if you are well rested and energetic. If flying long distances, you might want to stop over for a night or two along the way.

3. Before you go, make a copy of the opening page of your passport and other important travel documents and keep them separate from the actual documents when you travel. Then you won't panic if those documents are lost or stolen.

4. Learn basic phrases of the local language -- you'll feel more in control.

5. Stay connected to friends and family through periodic e-mails or telephone calls -- it will help keep you from feeling isolated. Make certain to provide them with your itinerary with contact numbers at the hotels where you'll be staying. You should also bring your cellular phone or purchase a satellite phone just in case.

6. If music relaxes you, make certain that you take your favorite CD's or tapes along -- you may not be able to find your favorite titles or artists overseas. Bring along a transistor radio so you can listen to your favorite  stations.

7. Learn some deep breathing exercises or other relaxation techniques that are easy to do.

8. Exercising can also help you relax. Before booking your hotels, find out what facilities or access to health clubs they have. If you prefer, there are exercises that can be done on the floor in your hotel room. Consider bringing along a jump rope or other easy-to-pack exercise product.

9. Try to blend in -- avoid wearing obvious "country specific" symbols such as team sports shirts. Sample the local culture and take note of and follow local customs, so you won't feel like you're sticking out from the crowd.

10. Make sure you have a resource for medical and personal safety assistance lined up, such as SOS Global Traveler assistance services, which provide telephone access 24/7 to your countries doctors. That way should you need help, you'll always know who to call. 

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Five Ways to Be a Better Girlfriend - Part 2

3. Laugh together. 

Laughter is one of the very best indicators of relationship health and longevity. Don’t be afraid to poke gentle fun at your man, and learn how to take a joke at your expense occasionally. Humor, when done right, bolsters people up. It doesn’t hurt or cut people down, so when you make fun of something, make fun of a situation rather than a character flaw.

4. Confidence is a huge turn on for men. 

When a man asks, for example, where you want to go for dinner, have an opinion. I know as women we want our man to make decisions and have opinions, but I’ll let you in on a secret: They would love to have their woman take the reins once in awhile. It’s a lot of work for them to always take the lead.

The same goes for sex: guys go wild for a woman who’s willing to take the initiative once in awhile. And seriously, a little goes a long way! If you take the lead and start undressing your man, he’ll have food for his imagination for weeks to come.

5. Enthusiasm and confidence go hand in hand.

A confident, negative woman is a ball-buster. A confident, enthusiastic woman is absolutely irresistible. That’s not to say you can never have a bad day, but your ratio of positive to negative comments should be at least ten to one.

This rule will serve you well in every relationship, not just romantic ones. Men are linear thinkers. If you have enthusiasm for your job, or for a movie you just saw, they will project that out to enthusiasm for the relationship, and for sex … and they like that.

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Five Ways to Be a Better Girlfriend - Part 1

How can you avoid the mistakes of past relationships? How can you maintain your sense of yourself within a new relationship? What do men really want in a partner ?

1. To avoid the mistakes of past relationships, you need to get clear on the patterns and the lessons they brought you. To help you get clear, try this exercise. Take a piece of paper, and across the top write the names of the last three men with whom you’ve had significant romantic relationships. Underneath their name, write a list of the reasons you were attracted to them when you first met. Underneath that list, write a list of the reasons why the relationship ended. (This exercise is adapted from Hindsight by Maryanne Comaroto.) Look for similarities in the relationships to find clues about your romantic patterns.

Are you attracted to successful, flashy men who treat you with disrespect? Maybe you’re attracted to nice guys who end up boring you to tears. Whatever it is, see if you can figure out your romantic pattern. Once you see the pattern, you can figure out the lesson. The lesson is typically found when you say, “I’ll never let that happen to me again.”

Whatever “that” is for you is your lesson. If you haven’t had that epiphany yet, ask yourself this: “what do I feel when I’m first with a new partner? How can I give that same feeling to myself?”

2. Most relationships fail, or at least flounder into tedium, because the partners lose their sense of identity outside the relationship.

Women identify with who they are as a lover, wife, and mother and forget who they are as an individual. To avoid this in your next relationship, be sure to maintain excellent contact with your friends, and encourage your man to do the same. Spend time with your friends at least once a week.

When you meet his friends, look for common ground so that you’ll feel comfortable encouraging him to hang out with them. Introduce him to your friends to lessen the “either/or” dynamic that tends to happen with new romance. And be sure to make time each week for your favorite activity, even if he doesn’t share your enthusiasm. It’s absolutely fine for you to have separate interests; in fact, it’s very healthy.

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The Seven Secrets of a Confident & Secure Woman - Part 2

5. A confident & secure woman KNOWS HOW TO SAY NO

Women have too little time and too much responsibility. The demands of jobs, child care, household duties, etc. are often draining. Having time to herself seems to be a far-fetched dream for many women.

The confident woman knows her limits and her need for self care. She understands that in order to be able to accomplish all that she wants/needs to do, she MUST have adequate energy reserves from which to draw. While sympathetic and even flattered when her phone rings off the hook with others making requests of her, she is able to pick and choose those people or causes to which/whom she will devote her time and energy. She knows when she needs to politely decline so that she will have time to recharge herself or to ward off becoming overwhelmed. She also does not feel a need to offer apologies or excuses for needing to do so.

6. A confident & secure woman TRUSTS HER INNER VOICE

While she may occasionally feel uncertain or seek the counsel of others, the confident woman knows deep down that her own heart will give her the direction she needs. While this intuition may be said to be a characteristic of all women, it is one that becomes refined only with age, wisdom and experience. The secure woman will carefully consider all the information at her disposal, seek advice from those she respects and then turn to that little voice inside of herself and become her own best counsel.

7. A confident & secure woman DOESN'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF

If we allow ourselves to think too much about something or consider every little thing that could possibly come up or go awry, we can soon make mountains out of molehills. The secure woman is able to separate the chaff from the grain and focus only on those things of primary concern to her in any situation. She does not micro manage herself or her affairs. Rather, she focuses on the broader picture along with the key ingredients that are needed to solve her problem or reach her goal. She possesses inner strength and the wisdom to be able to create, change and adapt as necessary.

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The Seven Secrets of a Confident & Secure Woman - Part 1

1. A confident & secure woman REPOSITIONS HERSELF

A confident woman never forgets the one thing that never changes –THINGS CONSTANTLY CHANGE.

With the winds of change ever blowing, a secure woman realizes that she may not currently possess all the tools that will take her to her goal, but she's always ready to learn what she needs to know in order to get there. This may mean going back to school, changing job or vocations or even moving to a different location, but she is ready, willing and able to adapt to changing circumstances.

2. A confident & secure woman KNOWS HOW TO GIVE AND TAKE

A confident woman understands that the gift is in the giving. She knows the laws that tell her what she gives will return to her several times over. She will give her time, energy and even her heart to those who need her. However, she also knows that she is not a super human and she does not over-extend herself. She regularly takes time for herself! She also recognizes that she has limits and, at times, finds herself in a position of needing assistance and is not afraid to ask for what she needs.

3. A confident & secure woman LIVES IN THE PRESENT

Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future is the bread of idleness that a confident woman refuses to eat. When recalling the past, she does not allow herself to dwell there but, rather, refocuses on the here and now. She understands that her past experiences, whether joyful or painful, are a part of her and have made her the confident person that she is today. She learns from the past and uses that information for current decision making. She has hopes for the future and engages in the occasional daydream while keeping herself solidly in the present tense of her life.

4. A confident & secure woman KEEPS HERE EYE ON THE PRIZE

Not everything we do comes up roses. To expect perfection is cavalier, but to know that mistakes are a part of the journey is wisdom. This knowledge allows the confident woman to refuse to pity herself when something doesn't turn out as she'd hoped or expected it would.

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